I love him,hes a nice guy,but my family is wayy richer,successful and respected then his,im more qualified then him,im more successful career-wise,his mother has an inferiority complex because of this,but the guys really nice and loves me a lot.should i ignore the material things and accept him 4 his love and loyalty?
2006-10-08 21:29:35 · 20 answers · asked by hakuna mutata 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously you care more about status than this man. Do the right thing & let him go so he can start to get on with his life, as he is wasting it with you.
True love is more valueable than money.
Anyone can make money.
Not everyone can find true love & happiness.
My advice - if you truely love this person - hang on to him as much as you can - who cares whether he is rich or not - & who cares what anyone else says anyway - do they control your life...
2006-10-08 21:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, if you really love him you would not have been asking this question in the first place. Its means you are not 100% in this relationship. Second thing, Be practical- this guy is so nice and lovely because he is getting everything I.E. A good qualified , rich girl. what more one can ask for. But what you are getting being nice to someone is not a great qualification. Can't you find a rich qualified nice guy. If you will try you will get it. Take lessons from history- In most of the mismatch cases (like yours) love does not last too long. You can try him also by saying that you will not be inheriting any money or property and the guy will have to support you.Think about it. Good Luck. Bye
2006-10-09 04:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Social Status and Status Quo...does not make someone more "Richer", "Successful" "Respected".
I worry about his Mom feeling like she does not measure up with your Family.
You won't have to ignore the material things, sounds like Mom and Dad will take care of that.
Priority seems like it is an issue, and I would choose Love and Loyalty over the Material things that others collect to show their Success.
I sure hope you don't remind this guy of the Superiority complex that I see here.
2006-10-09 04:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like your life, up until meeting this guy, has been very competitive in terms that your family as individuals must be viewed as well off and successful. So your mother has her nose in the air as she perceives that you've paired with a "loser" rather than someone of "your stature". Big Question .. do you love him enough to defend your feelings to others you care about, despite him possibly not being "socially acceptable" to your family & their circle of friends? Do you love him enough to envision you being happy in a lesser lifestyle than it sounds like you currently enjoy, knowing you are happier in his love than posessions and position would make you? It concerns me that you speak of "accepting his love". That is half the equation. You must feel that you want to not only accept, but return his love for the joy of it. If being with you means accepting a "second class citizen" status in your life, as your tone suggests, cut the poor guy loose before your precious material ambitions kill him. Good luck.
2006-10-09 04:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by KatNip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUE LOVE is accepting a person not for what he HAS but for what he IS. It is not the material things that make a relationship work out but it is the willingness of both partners to accept not only the positive traits but the flaws, as well.
2006-10-09 06:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by j6shawie26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can u claim to love him when your social status seems to be more important to u than anything else? And while we're at it, what does love have to do with social status exactly? I'm sorry but u sound very superficial and if social status is so important to u, then perhaps u should find someone else who can meet your expectations and standards and let your boyfriend find someone who will love and accept him for who he is.
2006-10-09 04:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been there and done that. He and his family will always resent you and your family because of the reasons you listed. In the beginning it does not matter because everything is rosy and wonderful. but watch when it get serious and you get married...thats when it all hits the fan.
Do youself a favour and rather mix with your own class of person, same race, same religion. It will make life alot easier in the long term. Anyone who tells you otherwise has no clue!
2006-10-09 04:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by rickytruetell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truely love this guy, money shouldn't be an issue. Why do you care what his social status is? So, long as he presents himself properly in public, you shouldn't worry about that. It seems like money and status is a big thing for you. If you truely want to be miserable, then don't marry him. If you want to be happy, then stay with this guy. Good luck.
2006-10-09 13:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to pose a question such as this, perhaps you aren't as successful as you think. Highmucks....indeed.
Upon further reflection, I say dump the bumb. You and your family will spend way too much time looking down your noses at him and his family.
A lot of Lion King fans up on Knobhill are there??
2006-10-09 04:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is..do you love him and can you love him? Since you are a lot better than him. If you do, then go ahead with him but my advise would be as humble as you can and never raise the issue about his social status.
2006-10-09 05:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by betty boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋