help me I am smart and funloving witty as can be. but i am so depressed. i am 46 male, my wife (soon to be ex ) has cheated i have lots to offer but still wanna die. is there any one that can help
2006-10-08 21:09:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have an open ear if you'd like to chat
2006-10-09 05:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by furbee_4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Rob death isn't an answer its just an end Think of those that love you, I can only imagine how hurt and depressed you are . Id love to be able to tell you something that will stop the hurt that is in you at this moment but all I can do is tell you a home truth and hope you can see the light at the end of the tunnel . You once found this fantastic woman and you loved and from what I can see still do love her . but she did the wrong thing, in time you can find another love I know its not the same but Rob you don't want find one the same as your Ex the hurt will be there for ever, but In a year it will lessen and in 2 it will decrease even more the wound will heal the scar will remain and your life will improve to a point were you can smile and be happy again , Just think long term as you say you still have plenty to offer so Rob find a nice lady later on and share your heart and soul with someone else who deserves you.
2006-10-09 04:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal feelings when going through divorce. My first husband cheated on me non- stop, the first time being a week after we got married. When we got divorced it was because I had found out the he had 3 kids by 3 women during the time we were married. I blamed myself for a long time and refused to see that it was him at fault, not myself. Your wife is greedy and wrong and never loved you, but there are many other people in the world. Throw yourself back into life. GO out with friends, go to sporting events, work some overtime. If you keep busy, then you won't notice the hurt and it will fade away with time. Not all women are like her, and in time you'll meet someone else.
On another note, if you find yourself seriously thinking or plotting out how to kill yourself or if you have made an attempt, then seek help for depression,
2006-10-09 08:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are at an ideal age to meet a new partner and make a new life. It's normal to feel deeply depressed when a relationship breaks up.
If you are having suicidal thoughts, then go see your doctor about treatment, you may be clinically depressed. If you are just feeling down, then sit down and make a list of all the things you normally like doing. Include everything from touring Europe to watching a sunset, from singing to eating cheesecake. Pin the list on your refrigerator and make sure you do at least one of those things every single day.
Keep yourself busy - enrol in evening classes in something you've never tried before, join a club, visit friends, take a holiday.
I found it worked for me. At first I would go to the classes with a frown on my face, but I made myself go, even if I didn't expect to enjoy it. And a funny thing happened. Doing things I enjoy, made me feel a little bit better, then a bit more better, then a lot better. It took me a couple of years to get back to where I should be, but I made it. So can you.
Oh, and I just got married again. At 52.
2006-10-09 04:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depress is just for a while - because you are smart and funloving witty and i am sure there still many good parts of u.
everything happened before and happening now is preparing the best in the future.
don't worry! be happy!
2006-10-09 04:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by chloe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard time for you, and hearing someone say "time heals all wounds" probably just makes you want to smack 'em one!! As someone else said, don't look to far into the future. Just get yourself by hour by hour, day by day and surround yourself with people who care about you.
I also suggest to see a local GP / Doctor. They might be able to subscribe anti-depressants. They really do help (I know) and despite that ppl say you get addicted, you don't anymore. They don't wipe away all the pain nor change your situation, they just make getting through the everyday things a lot easier.
Good luck
2006-10-09 04:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by Snoopy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't help you buddy you seem like a hopeless case i can see why your wife cheated on you. You sound like w weak loser and was probably not a very good husband she probably wanted herself a real man. I can't imagine what you have to offer you are not a very strong person and in this world you need to be strong smart not stupid. You are crying poor me now who want a man like that i say you have nothing to offer.
2006-10-09 04:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres loads of help out there, the most immidiate help i can think of is the net, start a blog, people will read it and offer you support, dont give up m8, 46 is no age and you can start again, theres so much more out there, people will say any one can kill them selves, its the easy way out, but thats wrong it takes guts to do your self in, but remember this when you do it, theres no going back and i rekonmost suicides change their mind when its too late.
your wife is not worth your life.............
look on the net
http://www.samaritans.org/
these people will help you and dont give up
goodluck if you need someone to talk to you can email me and we can msn
2006-10-09 04:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by baconbuttyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... i ask you to think of the little things in life that make you happy! Dont look too far in the future, it scary.... im sure you are a wonderful man and the world would miss you if you were gone... just think of all the beautiful things in this world that you would miss and that would miss you! i ask you to hold on, and know that its not too late... there is so much more to life!!!
2006-10-09 04:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know my friend, people all have problems. I myself have a lot to deal with. yes, once in my life I thought of ending my life. I did want to die... and I was imagining a violent death actually. thinking i was such a failure and felt like God hasn't giving me good reason to live. my dad told me i'm cursed. my boyfriend cheated me over my sister. my family has alot debts because of my failures. i fell inlove with a married person and got hurt badly. failed the board exam, people gave me false hopes, friends wasn't around my side, i was alone in the dark. ... and a lot more to mention. see, my heart's been like dead but im still alive and problems keep pouring on me. seems like i didn't have the right to be happy with my life. but you know what, there are still moments that i feel like i'm having a leap of faith. like jumping from a burning tower and in few seconds you have a sight of hope? that someone would save you, like superman, i guess? and you know, in that few seconds... it makes me believe that there's still life afterall.
keep your faith in tact with you. soon you'll find your ways to be happy. as i hope i can too.
2006-10-09 04:36:53 · answer #10 · answered by misscoyote 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of it this way ....
she cheated on you and told her friends, family and whoever else it is because you are ..... fill in the blank.
If you commit suicide .... you will have proved her right and she has last laugh.
Pick yourself up .... go and do everything you always wanted to do now that the excess baggage is off of your back.
Live well and that is how you give a little f--- you to your no good cheating ex.
2006-10-09 04:39:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋