I have been in this relationship for three years, and I can't seem to let go. Help...
2006-10-08 20:46:35 · 12 answers · asked by mzntellectual1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Focus on yourself. What did you used to do .. perhaps something that you enjoyed that you've not indulged yourself in for a long time? Do it! Pamper yourself for a time. Spend time with people that you enjoy, that enjoy you also. Renew old friendships and explore new ones. When you find your mind slipping to the old emotional ruts, distract yourself with something you have planned that you'll do that is FUN. In doing that you'll remind yourself how positive your life is now compared to what it was, and the "bad thoughts" will eventually fade.
2006-10-08 20:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by KatNip 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh man. this one is tough.
Letting go is the hardest, especially when you're alone or you have time to think about it. The very best thing you could do is busy up your life. Take a class, a music lesson, dance class, a sport, karate, or writing class, start learning that second language you always wanted to. Now's your chance, you've got a great reason to do something.
The more you have going on, the more opportunites you will have for new windows to open. Just expose yourself to the world in every way you can think of. It's hard to do when you're depressed, but you have to step up and Just Do it (sorry for borrowing the Nike slogan).
Good luck and hang in there!
2006-10-08 20:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by divad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, good things end. That’s just the way life is. Sometimes, bad things continue due to neglect or fear. This ISN’T the way life should be!
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2006-10-08 20:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by CK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's something that everyone has to do on their own time frame. Some people get over bad relationships a lot quicker than others.
I'll tell you what not to do: don't jump into another relationship! Even if you meet someone, they are just going to be your rebound guy and it will go nowhere.
2006-10-08 20:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by Ed A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time (unfortunately, this is what it usually takes).
Active social involement (not just sexual but activites including sporting, recreational, etc) & form new friendships.
Take a good break from your current situation (eg. holiday) & come back refreshed & possibly have a new perspective on things.
Revamp yourself (shrug off you old self & create a new you - I dont mean be something your not but start a new mindset & think of the brighter future that is in front of you - not whats behind you).
Hope this helps...
2006-10-08 20:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never forget what made it so bad . remember the tears and pain but most of all remember you never want to feel like that again ,also give your self time. all wounds need to heal. heartbreak is a wound its very painful. take time to know your self !!! then try to understand how things got so bad. you are the 1 thing that is in all your relationships if you don't know yourself how will you ever get to know someone else? good luck
2006-10-08 20:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by i can help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We r in the same boat. But i tried 2 get over him. All i did was not to think bout guys o fall in love again. But a guy came 2 me n he made me fall 4 him. I could not let go of my ex but coz of him, he told me there is a brighter future with o without my ex its just how u c thru to your feelings. Enjoy live c'mon smilez!!!
2006-10-08 21:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,as u are concern about ur relationship but ur bf/husband dont want to keep the relationship after 3 long year .its better u can give him better sex so that u cant go anywhere and talk to him freely .....whts is problem and have counsellin that will help u .................
2006-10-08 20:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by newton_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sooner you let it go the sooner you can begin to live a better life. it will hurt like hell and you'll have to fight every urge to call him. but damn it you'll get over it and you'll be glad you're free. the next step is to walk away.
2006-10-08 20:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
female enable me tell ive been on your shoes my ex develop into an abuser nevertheless, yet while he isnt desirous to get a job and save one and needs to rely on you to deliver contained in the money female he will by no potential substitute no rely how plenty he says ill substitute i promise in basic terms provide me yet another risk. and no its no longer your fault that hes in the back of on his charges so once you deliver that as much as him he will continuously attempt to apply that against you that your in basic terms concentrated on money in order that he would be waiting to think of its no longer my fault its hers on condition that he continuously thinks no longer something is his fault lol how many cases ive heard that yet any way, you are the only one working at an identical time as he does no longer something, you have each proper to tell him stuff, i comprehend its complicated because of the fact he will come back with puppy canines eyes performing like hes sorry for what he has finished or suggested and take a inspect each little thing to get you to furnish him yet another risk, i went by using crap like this for 6yrs earlier i ultimately left my ex. the main suitable concern is to purpose to be good do no longer enable him get to you or in case you think of you may no longer try this enable somebody on your loved ones be there with you or enable somebody on your loved ones be there and you pass away or no longer be there and enable them to make optimistic he gets each little thing so there should not be a next calling asserting i left some thing there am i able to come get it, cuz whats going to take place he will try that puppy canines seem. yet once you somewhat do no longer desire to be back with him i could try one in each of those issues the two you no longer homestead and enable a family member be there at an identical time as he gets his stuff or have somebody there with you for help for you and that might actually assist you reside good, and feeling undesirable for him will at last pass away yet thats the key concern you would be able to desire to stay concentrated on is to no longer sense SORRY FOR HIM in any respect!!!! in basic terms think of hes aways been like this on condition that i met him why could he substitute now, he delivered all this on his self without ones help. properly i'm hoping i develop into waiting that might actually assist you out. good success.
2016-10-02 02:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by shimp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋