2006-10-08 20:35:00 · 11 answers · asked by pacificwaves8 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first time I met him...no. At the time, I was still involved with someone else and back then, my husband was just a friend. It took me 4 yrs to know he was going to be the one.
2006-10-08 20:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, certainly not - both times! I've been married twice, and both times I was not particularly impressed by the person when I first met them.
On the other hand, I had a huge, romantic love affair and I was totally smitten by that guy the moment I saw him. It was like electricity crackled between us, the moment our eyes met. It was great for the first couple of years, then it went downhill. Bottom line, apart from the chemistry, we weren't really compatible with each other.
With my two husbands, it was a case of "still waters run deep". I had to get to know the inner man, to appreciate his good qualities. If I had based my decision on an instant reaction, I wouldn't have given them a chance, and I would have missed something really special. Whereas with the other man, I was sucked in by the instant attraction but underneath, he wasn't the one for me.
So I'm not a big fan of the "love at first sight" theory!
2006-10-09 03:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did know that I was going to marry him the first time I met him. I was 14 he was 16.I don't know what caused it to happen, but I just knew. We started dating on and off for a few years. Then we became serious and moved in together. When I was 17 we concieved a child and when I was 20 we got married and have been ever since.
2006-10-09 03:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by jmlmmlmll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time i met my husband i knew that he was special. We started dating and saw each other every day, and i knew that he was the one for me within 10 days of meeting him! The chemistry between us was incredible and we have an amazing energy when we are together, our personalities work so well together. It is like one of those things that you think can only happen in the movies and not in real life.... but 3 years later we are still enjoying each other like we did when we first met!
2006-10-09 06:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sunseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well actually I knew even before we started dating :)
We have known eachother since grade 7 and we started dating in grade 12. I asked him 3 times before we went on our first date!
2006-10-09 03:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by Wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Lover:
Yep! The first time I saw him I knew he was the one for me, although I had never dated before I had this strange feeling within my soul and I knew he was mine!It was a feeling of belonging n knowing although you never laid eyes on someone before!
Love Sanam
2006-10-09 03:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start with my neighbor. No, she got pregnant and had to marry hers. Then in the church she changed her mind and began to turn around, tripped on the carpet and was so embarrassed that she turned around and married him. The funny thing is that she has been with him for 17 happy years so I guess it was a lucky thing she tripped but she never intended to.
I know my parents didn't know when they met and my mom seriously had to think about it awhile to know if she should accept or not and they have been married alot more years. Myself, no. I have married twice. The first guy-no way and he was such a pest I hated him. My father said oh no if you hate him, that is the one you are going to wind up marrying and you know what? Yes, the pest grew on me and after a few years dating I married him! He had an eye and heart for more than one woman tho. The second one was divorced. I never slept around but she heard he had come over to see me a couple of times so she came screaming at my door accusing me of sleeping with him and saying I was in love with him and she wanted him back.
Boy did I get a good laugh out of that when I got done hollaring at her and telling her how ugly he was and that no one but her could want him, much less would I ever think of sleeping with Mr. Ugly and that she could have him. A few years later he was at her house visiting his daughter and talking to his exwife-yes the one that came raving and name calling to my door. By then I liked him alot, but marry him-???? He asked me over the phone, I said no and he asked me to hold on a moment. Then his ex got on and told me how madly in love with me he was and she asked me to!! When he would not quit calling asking me to reconsider I said yes ok just to get my phoneline freed up-no intentions at all of following through and he was a long way away.
In the two weeks he was on vacation seeing his daughter I thought about it all, asked people we knew what they thought about it, and 2 weeks later I married him. I know that sounds bad, and not like some mad hot love affair but those are the ones that usually fizzle out. I really liked him alot but did not know if it was enough to marry him. I had to start giving it thought. If he had not asked when he did, I know eventually I would have started to look at him closer and be ready to accept him, he just pushed me a little too soon and it worked. I would have liked to be more ready but I realized it was about time and that I probably loved him more than liked him. Luckily I was right! So the answer is an unequivical no. I did not know and most people do not know the first time they see someone. Now on the other hand, his first wife knew, even tho he did not and she set out to win his heart. Well, we see how that worked out, so I don't advise that. But there have been recorded a few rare cases of people who knew on first sight and it worked out and lasted, that just is not how it usually works because it takes people time to get to know eachother first. Most who don't, run into big trouble later and many who do, still don't work out. Mostly because of financial reasons, child rearing issues, or different backgrounds in how they were raised...so be very careful.
2006-10-09 03:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by beverly p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in FATE - GOD fix the name to be a spouse in fatal book
2006-10-09 03:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really i was just too busy falling in love to think about anything else
2006-10-09 03:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, I didn't know. In fact I could not stand him, I thought he was a stuck up snob.
2006-10-09 03:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋