i was just asking cause I was raised by a stay at home mom and I'm so glad for it. And now that i'm about to be a mother myself, I couldn't bare the thought of leaving my little one with a babysitter or a day care personell, just so I can work.
I wouldn't want to miss any "moments" with him.
what do u guys think?
2006-10-08 20:33:32 · 28 answers · asked by chapped lips 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
allow your lil one to enjoy your maternity leave
allow u'r heart sometimes, over u'r head
needs v/s wants
2006-10-08 20:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by sεαη 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay at Home for your kids. Otherwise you and your kids will miss out on so much. money can be made later. but your kids childhood you won't be able to get it again after you make the money. You already know this.
A care taker will do their "job"....as in change diaper and feed them. But only a mother can RAISE them. I watched my son (2 yr old) for the first time learn to roll over sit, eat with spoon, stand and walk. I didn't have to hear about it from someone else. My son has better vocalbulary and better people skilss than most kids his age. I know it sounds like i'm bragging, but i could give you like a million reason as to why raising your own kids is so much better for you and your kids.
But i have to warn you, its not an easy job. there are days when I just can't wait till my husband gets home so I can get out for a few minutes. Then I think about what it would have been like if both of us were working.... coming home stressed from hard days work. Then the few hours that you have before going to sleep, are you going to spend that with your kids or are your gonna make dinner, do laundry, shower, clean house....all the other stuff.... so how much time does your kids get. The few minutes of bedtime reading?
so if you can afford, i think you should be a stay at home mom.
2006-10-08 20:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are other questions that relate to this one. 1. Will you be financial disadvantaged? 2. Do you have the tempermant to stay at home full time and care for a child? If the answers to these questions are positive (1. no, 2. yes) then you can sit back and enjoy your children. If there are any issues regarding finance and temperment then may be a part time or work from home job could be the answer.
2006-10-08 20:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by Born a Fox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to work with my first child and hated every minute of it. I missed her first step. Now with my second child now 3 I have had the oppurtunity to stay home with both of my girls. I would not trade this for anything and wish I could have stayed at home with the oldest.
I am going to go back to school this spring, but my husband will be home and they won't have to attend any child care. I home school them both and love the time I get to spend with them. I will be getting a nursing degree and will be able to pretty much pick my own schedule. I will be doing it for them though.
So its hard if you"have to work." I find it hard to believe that anyone would want to work if they didn't have to but some people do. If you have the oppurtunity to stay home with them I encourage it all the way. Especially during the first five years, this is the time they become set in their ways.
2006-10-08 20:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it, I'd advise mom/or a dad to stay home, absolutely!
And you also have to be happy with staying home, some moms just don't want to be around their children 24/7.
I've been a stay at home mom for a number of years even after all my kids were in school. My oldest is 18 now. They always know where I'm at, they've never come home to an empty house. I cook, laundry, clean, listen, play....and I don't regret one little bit of it. (I'm not perfect by any means, but I just did what I thought was best for my family)
My oldest just informed me last night that she & her boyfriend are taking me on a date with them next weekend to see a movie...guess I didn't do to bad that she still wants to hang around me :)
2006-10-08 20:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by nobodyuknow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum always worked and I hated being left with babysitters, although it meant there was more money for holidays and treats. I have stayed ay home with my kids and enjoyed the fact that I was always there for them, I just work at a part time job now all my kids are at school, I enjoy getting out to work and earning my own extra money and meeting people outside the family.
2006-10-08 20:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this question can only be decided by you. I was a one parent family bringing my two kids up alone, so it was a case of having to work. I didnt really have a choice. If things had of been different then I probably would have been a stay at home mum.
2006-10-08 20:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ull miss very important moments in ur kids life like there first steps, there first word and a strong relation ship my Mom is at work most of the time and she issed out on everything now we don't even talk except for hi and bye in the mroning and night. So it really depends on u and what u want in life if ur single then u ahe to but if ur married or have abf then let them make the money or u cal get a part ime job. Like I said it depnds on ur goald in life.
2006-10-08 20:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by outlandishb13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay home.
How much will you really bring home after ...sitter, work clothes, traveling exp., lunch,etc.
Do get a p/t job just to get out of the house and make spending money. It is HARD being home all day with just a baby, you need to get out if only for the adult interaction.
2006-10-08 20:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your man is working dont let nothing stop you from being the great mom your going to make one day! eventually you will start working once your child goes to school or something!! Im considered a mister mom, but I raised foster kids and I have no regrets: )
2006-10-08 20:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife stays home with my boys(5,10,11) and goes to school. We struggle a lot because my income barely pays the bills. As hard as we have it, I would want it no other way. My boys are growing up to be great men.
2006-10-08 20:40:08 · answer #11 · answered by minion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋