How to survive a break up of 2 years?

Question

When you find out that your boyfriend has becomes very nasty trying to ruin your life??

Answer 1

If you are going through a break up right now, creating a new and joyful life may sound impossible. Whether you believe it or not, you can make your break up a positive experience in your life. Acceptance is the first step.

Getting Past the Drama
Acceptance comes when we step out of denial and judgment and are willing to see the present exactly as it exists in this moment. This means being able to see the story of your breakup for what it is, without any drama or story line. Our drama serves as a defense mechanism designed to protect us from the pain of our past. But, living in the story of your breakup and the drama of circumstances comes with a huge emotional price. It costs peace of mind and prevents us from living in the present.

Learning to Separate Fact from Fiction
An important aspect of healing is learning how to separate the facts from the story. Fact is an unbiased observation of the events of our lives. Fiction is the story we create out of our unresolved emotions from the past. It is rarely based on the facts. Here are some examples that can help you to differentiate between fact and fiction:
Healing Action Steps:
Ready to take the first step toward recreating your life -- and making it better than ever?
1. Create a quiet environment free from distractions. Take out a pen and a pad of paper, and begin writing your breakup story, complete with all the drama and emotion you feel about the events that transpired. Use language that expresses your deepest, darkest feelings. This is not a time to censor yourself, to be kind or to take responsibility for your actions. Give yourself permission to bring forth whatever needs to be said concerning yourself, your partner and your breakup.
2. Make a list of the facts about your breakup, without any story, drama or judgment.
3. Go back and read your list. As you revisit each detail, ask yourself, "Is this fact or fiction?"

You will soon realize its time to move on with life, get some good sensible friends.
Good Luck
RR

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Dear:
Give yourself a break , two years its not very long !The heart needs time to heal its wound!If he is nasty to you then you should return your favour!
Remember that when we are faced with a decision in life involving the heart and it is already sad and injured you must not heed haert's answer and call,; use your brains and then you will know what to do.
Ruin his life as well if you choose tht way or you can forget abt him; love only God for only Him can we get true , pure love and wait for love to find you. Time heals all wounds.
Love Sanam

Answer 4

Firstly step back and then evaluate your situation from a third party perspective this must be done clinically without emotion.
Add up the good and the bad and if the bad is the greater.
Then it is time to say goodbye and do not look back.
Start a new life that does not in any way, involve parts from the old one

Answer 5

I'm a family law attorney, and I've seen plenty of this situation. Read the book "Letting Go." It will help you gain perspective and give you courage to move on.

I'll be glad to help you personally if you send me an e-mail. You need to move forward with your life. There is nothing for you to hold onto in the past. Give yourself goals and rewards for accomplishments that will benefit your life.

Hoping to hear from you.

Answer 6

there are no simple answers.
Breaks ups are typically filled with resentment by either party.
Some handle it well and move on while others become vindictive.
Prioritize and above all ensure your safety.
My ex has pretty much done it all to ruin my life.
Fortunately for me there are no cards left for him to play.
The entire town, from the police to the judge, knows he is a maladjusted born loser, sociopath, and pathalogival liar.
I have my life, my reputation, money and everything he tried to have taken from me .... including my freedom.
The best revenge is a life lived well.
That is my vindication.

Answer 7

Figure out what percentage of your life was taken up (age x .2), and sue him for lost opportunities.
Keep in mind that % lessens as you get older..

Answer 8

2 years is not that long get over yourselves and move on

Answer 9

Time means nothing, true love never fade in heart, but think before do anything, treasure your love