Okay so there is this checkout girl at the grocery store lol anyway shes really sweet and cute. My facial experssions are really clear I am sure I've accidently made eyes at her lol. we usually chat while I am in the check out line and now she smiles and gives a small wave or a hello with the eyes right when I get in the store. Anyway we were talking today and discovered we go to the same university.
The thing is... She doesn't make my "gaydar" go like off the charts or anything like I can't really tell one way or the other. Any suggestions. I wear my pride braclets n stuff in an attempt to suttley let her know I am gay. How can I tell if she is?
2006-10-08 19:03:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
no magazines or anything remotely GBLT.
I can't just ask her in the middle of grocery line! thats crazy
2006-10-08 19:11:50 · update #1
Yea Im out to close friends but I don't you know broadcast that OMG THERES A LESBIAN THING LOL.
2006-10-08 19:13:07 · update #2
She could just be real friendly...so work on being friends with her. You might want to invite her to a group outing. There would be no real pressure of, say, a date or something like that.
But remember gaydar senses something in a person that sometimes they are not ready to deal with. Sometimes gaydar sees into the future life of a person. So, for now, just try to be a friend and let the future take care of it's self.
2006-10-08 20:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have something in common, other than your shopping. You go to the same university. Stop by the store, have a note with your number on it and when you go through the line just hand it to her and ask her if she would like to meet up at the local coffee shop and talk about school. If she calls you, she's interested, if not then you'll know.
2006-10-09 08:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to go somewhere but not as a date thing. Just invite her out with a bunch of friends or whatever. Lots of folks don't play up their orientation at work, especially in a supermarket where she will have to deal with that guy in line behind you every week. Very likely, if she's gay, she'll let you know once she's away from work. I've always been out to family and friends and most coworkers but I don't give most customers a clue about anything in my personal life. It's not a secret. I just don't like being in a position where I can't walk away from a person preaching to me.
2006-10-09 02:11:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kuji 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask her.
There is, after all, no other way to know - anything else is just blind guesswork. If you don't ask her, then you may as well just flip a coin.
The real trick is figuring out if she's a homophobe; if she isn't a homophobe, then she won't react negatively to your question.
Presumeably, if she knows you're gay and still treats you in a very friendly manner, then she probably won't get upset at your asking her if she's gay in the case that she isn't. Just do it in a curious, almost conversational manner. If you're not stressed, and don't act like you're coming on to her, everything will probably go well.
2006-10-09 02:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by extton 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gutl friend, if i have a question, i just ask it...
Dont be blunt about it though- people tend to mistake out goingness with loudness/ un tackfulness....
If that approach is to strong then dance around the issue- see if she picks up on it
This is why I just adore gay men- most are so in your face, I love it!!!
2006-10-09 05:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out for coffee where it is just you two alone then take her hand and tell her you really like her,if she doesn't pull away your in luck,if she does then there is no harm done.Except to you,but goodluck mabe she likes you but isn't out of the chloset yet!
2006-10-09 09:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy that must be tough. Well, I would say ask her to cofee and then broach the subject honestly. Explain that you would liek to be subtle and romantic, but the reality is that you dont want to offend her if she isnt gay. Be honest.
2006-10-09 02:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by mark r 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
lol Check out chick that's cute = ) i have to agree with Kuji invite her to go out with a bunch of your friends... Uni bar or something like... From what you have said i am getting positive signs that she may be interested but again with Kuji, people are different outside of work.... try and hunt her out at uni if possible (don't become a stalker but lol) if you don't want to ask her at her work... Good luck
2006-10-09 02:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by *Aus*Surfer*Girl* 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'd just go on and ask her out.
just be honest about yourself.
if anything, most girls like the idea of being the crush of other girls.
try this script:
hi, i know we don't really know each other well. but i'd like you to know that i'm gay and i think i really like you. would you like to go out for coffee sometime?
or something like that.
i've tried that, though not in the same words, and it worked for me.
g'luck!
2006-10-09 03:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
humm... Is there any gay magazines that she can ring up at the grocery store? or maybe ask her if they have a certain magazine.
2006-10-09 02:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋