I have been having a long distance relationship for 3 years, the first year was great and it passed away too fast, the second past while we were flying to each other and the third im just getting so sick of always travelling and it takes me minimum 10 hours one way in plane...since i met some nice people over here i just might want to get a second one, is it ok? I dont want to break up because i love the person and i would want to marry with the person but time wise and financially the relationship is killing me slowly...help!
2006-10-08 19:01:51 · 22 answers · asked by Luna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well if you really cared you would just be honest with your partner and tell them how you feel. that way you two can make a decision together and no one feels too hurt. thats way better than cheating on him/her. if it was meant to be and you care for each other then it will work out. but if you have to ask this question i'm guessing you have doubts.
2006-10-08 19:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by reyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The financial burden and the distance are two major setbacks in the relationship you described. The love and bonding which you guys share and have for each other is big plus plus. Have you tried asking the guy? What would have been his reaction if he had to travel this much and travel is not cheap. For three years you two have enjoyed a beutiful relationship but believe me there is a price to pay for happiness. I would suggest that you two talk about it and try to sort it out. Maybe you can try to minimize the distance by moving to nearer places or ideally at the same place. After all if marriage is in forseeable future why not settle at any one place. Thats what couples do. Don't they.
Remember its human nature to love one person and then stick to him/ her. We find so many good people (men and women) all along our lives but we don't change our life partners. Cherish the love if it comes your way and overcome the obstacles of time and places. Happy relationship:)
2006-10-08 19:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by qualittee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its neva ok 2 cheat in a long or short or nay type of relationship. One of da most important issues in a relationship is TRUST n once u lost it it will take a heck more than an apology 2 get it bak. So i hope dat u deeply think of all da consequences b'4 u take dis action. Dea is a saying dat goes "Love conquers all" but if u believe dat dis long time relationship is killing u, den u need 2 make da decision if u still wanna b with him trully or not. Becoz u cannot live like dat if u know dat u can't retain dat type of relationship.
2006-10-08 19:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by SKY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better if you end the long distance relationship unless you or your boyfriend consider relocating. Is that too hard to do? There has to be a compromise...... Think long and hard and decide what you want. If the long distance is tearing you apart financially, break it off or stick with it but sleeping around will not solve anything, it will make life more complicated for you.
2006-10-08 19:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are hard work to maintain, but if you love her, then you wouldn't want to cheat. I have friends here who have boyfriends and girlfriends back in their hometowns, and they say how much they love them and miss them and really want to be with them, yet they will go out every single night and score with another guy or girl, very often sleeping with them as one night stands. They will then phone their boy or girl and tell them how much they mean to them and how much they miss them. Are you trying to tell me that is right? The relationship that you have is not an open one. It is formed on trust, and if you go and find another girl, then you will have broken that trust and then you deserve everything that you get because the relationship will be over.
2006-10-08 19:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by laislinns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not ok. Its still cheating. If u love the person and eventually wanted to marry that person, why cheat??? Would u want to be treated that way too? Would that be ok for that person? If u really love the person, why cheat? And why look for another one? Think about the risks and consequences.
2006-10-08 19:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by joe_logs_a_co 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have held out for so long, what has changed? Could you perhaps move closer to each other, especially as you say you want to marry this person. How can you think of another person, when you say you love this other person. You either love or you don't. If it's a drag, then why continue?
2006-10-08 19:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by maggie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask yourself, "is it really worth being with someone who is such an inconvenience to see?" Not that I'm saying your relationship is a bad idea, but if you guys aren't planning on making arrangements to see one another on a day to day basis, then I'd let it go. What's the point of being with someone over the phone or in emails? They offer no physical.....anything. No hugs, kisses, cuddling, sex, etc. Some people may see it differently than I, but I believe that if you're with someone....you're literally WITH that person. Like in a physical sense.
2006-10-08 19:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by detroitkid17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is never alright! If your think about cheating you might as well leave the relationship sounds like that distance is keeping you two apart the majority of the time.
2006-10-08 19:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by PinkHighHeels 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
break up with the person.. cheating is cheating, no matter how you look at it. If you betray the person , then you have misplaced their trust in you , and the foundation of your relationship is then a lie.. just break up and move on .
2006-10-08 19:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋