I asked a similar ? last week and I did not provide any more details, Well I found my Jr high sweetheart in another state, it has been about 20 years since I have seen her..She is engaged to a real jerk that is making her work three jobs, I have told her to a point how I feel about her and she doesnt seem to be very responsive, I know if I had her, she would not have to work unless she wanted to, I own my own business that is successful..I would like to travel to her city to visit on a lunch date or dinner but she is very hesitant..All I want is for me and her to meet face to face again and just sit down and talk, she is attracted to me as I am to her..I think that she may have second thoughts about marrying this guy if she can just get to know me again...I dont want to keep pestering her about this but I dont want to give up on her yet, I have wanted her for so many years and I feel like there is one last hope, what advice, if any do you have for me?
2006-10-08 18:52:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She might be in a confused state right now... But its still for her to decide... If she's really in love with the guy she's engaged to, u cannot change anything about it.... Especially if she's happy about having to work 3 jobs, or not being that successful... I mean, if there's love, u cant change that.
Still, I wouldnt make u lose hope bec u seem to be a very loyal guy and i admire that in guys, who work very hard for the love of their life...
Try surprising her with a visit. I know its not right and it kinda messes the whole engagement thing... But u will never know until u tried. Take it from there if u see each other. Just meet her. Talk about old times... stuff like that. Dont pressure her into running off with u or to not marry the guy or something like that. Just talk to her as a friend (I know u dont want that). U'll see from her reactions if she is really interested. If she would shoo u away, just take that as a no... Accept her decision and move on. But if she shows signs that she is interested, then, good for u! Good luck and hope she makes the right decision for her.
2006-10-08 19:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by joe_logs_a_co 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell her you are interested in getting to know each other again -- if she rejects you for any reason then you need to respect that choice and leave her alone. Seriously consider that you are in love with a Jr. High girl that you knew 20 years ago........The girl you remember from back then and the woman she is now are two totally different people. Maybe you are scary to her -- if I told some old boyfriend I was engaged to be married and he insisted on coming from out of state to see me
and had no respect for my current relationship I would think he was half psycho.
2006-10-08 19:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can make another person work a job against their will. She engaged, which should automatically be a signal for you to leave her alone. You said that she is hesitant about meeting you. You may be a nice guy, but to persuade or pressure her to meet you isn't respecting her wishes. You are being selfish and manipulative. As a result, if the two of you got together there is the potential that she would be jumping from one so-called bad relationship to another.
2006-10-08 19:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her point blank if she is interested in pursuing this with you. If she is not very responsive to begin with then why are you continuing with her. I would talk to her on the phone and ask if you can see her again to talk things over. You may just be scaring the crap out of her and she doesn't know how to respond to you. I had a similar situation myself and it turned out that he was an alcoholic but functional. I found out after a couple of weekends together and broke it off as soon as I knew cause I had someone much better suited to me waiting patiently ...lucky me!
2006-10-08 19:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her you just want to come visit, take her out to dinner and catch up on old times. Let her know that you are not expecting any thing except to visit with her. That way she won't feel like you are trying to pressure her into any thing. And if she says okay. Then you may have a chance on her getting to see if she would rather be with you, or the guy she is with.
2006-10-08 18:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be pushy- make your lunch offer and put the ball in her court- she has a major decision to make- don't make totally derogatory remarks about fiance- disagree without being disagreeable-hopefully she is not hooked on jerks. take care= D
2006-10-08 18:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 10:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by rosenberger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make someone love u. she is in love and unless something shows her how bad he is she wont budge.
2006-10-08 18:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by psychpath64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just convey again that you intrest about her
2006-10-08 18:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Dimiz♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it
2006-10-08 18:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋