I have a friend (seriously) whom is currently in a long term serious relationship, and he is ther for all the wrong reasons. i just introduced him to a very good friend of mine, and well, they've hit it off. They are now nuts about each other, and are preparing to take it to the next level, all while he is working on terminating his current relationship. Question is this, is it better to live in a relationship out of morals and follow the road less traveled, or follow the new path?
2006-10-08 18:43:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say you only live once! Go for the gusto! If he is truly there with the long term relationship for the wrong reasons...how come it has lasted so long? If he is seeing another woman at the same time ...will he just do it again to the new love? He's cheating! If he and the new love are really truly in love and not lust. He needs to break it off with the old love and be on his own for awhile to see how the new love works out. It could be that he just likes the idea of the risk and rush of cheating. Hard to tell until he gets his own place and has some time with the new love. If it works then go for it!
2006-10-08 18:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in bod hopping, so to speak, but if the relationship was a mistake, then mistakes are usually best corrected.
It's always important to learn before jumping into the next relationship though. We learn something from each friend we have. Hopefully, we eventually end up where we need to be. Then you STAY through thick and thin. There is always good and bad times, that doesn't make it a mistake. Those are different and best corrected.
2006-10-09 17:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really his decision, so don't feel bad, your not the one cheating. I think his mistress is just a means to an end of his current relationship, and when his current relationship is over, his mistress will just get dumped. No one really has an affair to get married, they have an affair to get out of the past relationship without hurting so bad. Think about it? Your friend and this "mistress" are attracted to each others unavailability, it won't last.
OK, I go with moral thing. but life is not black and white all the time.
2006-10-09 14:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by kiss me under the mistletoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better for your friend to follow his heart. If he is in his old relationship more out of obligation than love, then it just isn't right for him or his current partner. He should end the old relationship before starting the new one. It's only fair to all involved. Happiness is one of our strongest emotions, coupled with love...if we aren't happy then there's no point in continuing on the path.
2006-10-09 07:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the guy... He should ask questions to himself like, Who do I love better, or Which relationship make me happier... stuff like that. I know its a very difficult decision but of course he has to decide. With his new love, is he really happy? I mean, really... not because it is a new relationship but can he really see himself spending the rest of his life with her? I mean, if he isnt happy with the current one, he should let her go in a nice way...
As for me (as a girl), he shouldnt even be dating a new one unless he broke up with the first one... tell him to make it right.
2006-10-09 01:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by joe_logs_a_co 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. its hard to do that for some reason. happiness and trust are very important in any relationship,they go hand in hand. if your friend is going to leave his long term love for another ,i think he should if he is no longer happy. the new road is the better path but i think before he ventures into new territory he needs to be honest with his long term love and say goodbye.-----good luck always
2006-10-09 02:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by nonners1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best all around to end one relationship before starting another one.
That is why when I got divoriced I made sure it was becasue I needed to end the relationship. Not because I needed to be with someone else.
Those kinds of relationships you speak of rarely last because that person is searching for someone to make them feel better and at that time......anyone at that point feels better than the person who they are with
2006-10-09 02:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well seems to me that you've already answered that by introducing him to that 'friend of yours' but if he has children then I don't think you made the right choice because most men will always look for an easier way out...only a few actually ride out the waves and honestly that is the kind of man I would want for a partner...your friend is looking for that shortcut by the sounds of it...and you gave him the directions.....not impressed...bee
2006-10-09 01:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋