It's akward when i do invite him over to my parents house for the occasional dinner. They put on a front so it's pleasant, but no matter how hard i/he tries, they see him as a bad person. They dont have a reason as to why they dont like, they just think 'i can do better'. It's to the point where the evening would be ruined if i have him over for family dinners, even christmas dinner. He's not welcome. Do i bring him over anyway?
2006-10-08 18:35:40 · 12 answers · asked by Chrissy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is your boyfriend for 5 years! Of course you bring him over to Christmas dinner or any other time! He is your choice for a boyfriend, not your parents. Its about time don't you think that you sit down and talk to your parents openly and tell them that he is a part of your life and they are a part of your life so everyone needs to get along, not for themselves, but for YOU! Just tell them you love them and this has gone on for to long. Don't have them make you choose between them or your boyfriend.
2006-10-08 18:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either your parents are way too judgmental or they have some reason why they don't like him. Sit back and imagine you are them....how would you see him? They might be right.
Are they people that you can never please? If so, do what you think is right for you. If there is really true reasons they dislike him, then you need to think about this.
It might be that they learn to accept him , or you will have to put him and the kids first. Your parents will have to see you the day after
rearrage your life every holiday. Eventually if you marry him and have a family with him, then you need to make the decision to put
him and your kids first. Your parents will have to see you the day after Christmas, the day after your birthday etc in order to keep peace. someday your parents need to trust you as an adult.
2006-10-08 18:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'ld say ask them for specific reasons why you could do better. There's no way that they have no reason for not liking him and are just being arbitrary. Try to get a better answer out of them. Is it his appearance? Perhaps they associate his appearance with negative stereotypes? I'ld assume he's been as polite as possible around your parents. Do they think that he doesn't respect you as much as he should? Does he demonstrate an attitude that your parents frown upon? Perhaps they're concerned about monetary problems? If so, that's something they should've brought up a long time ago.
If you've been with him for five years, your parents should have a definate reason for why they don't like him. If they have no reason for hating him, then by definition they're being unreasonable. If they just think he's not perfect, then they're not being realistic. If they think you can do better, then get a straight answer out of them as to how you could've done better and settle this problem. In any case, keep in mind that they're doing this in your best interest, and want the best for you.
2006-10-08 19:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jaques S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents want the very best for their children...especially their daughters. And probably no one will ever be good enough in their opinion. Since you've been together for 5 years, maybe you should make it clear, that they accept him, if they want to continue to have a relationship with you. That what they're doing is really offending you. On the other hand, you may want to ask them WHY they feel he isnt good enough, especially if he makes you happy, and you both really care for each other and want a future together.
2006-10-08 18:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely disagree with the first response. You may not be able to remain on best terms with your parents, but if your relationship with the BF is as good as it could (and should) be, it is a treasure of immense value, and is not to be lightly dismissed. You and BF could host a dinner for your parents at your place, and see how it works.
2006-10-08 18:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds favourite to me as i've got heard others talk approximately this...and you understand what? it is disfunctional. If this guy takes the liberty of treating your daughter like that exceptionally mutually as letting his very own toddlers run amuck, you should tell him to get a grip or bypass away. hassle-free and straightforward. the only individual who can replace him is him and he has to confirm the concern and prefer to alter, which it would not appear like he does. How happy does this difficulty make you, not to show your daughter? you additionally could make it on your person, you do not prefer him or his suggestions-set. you're a great individual, and you have the prospect to show your daughter how great you're. :) the better component to it is you probably did not already say "I do" to this guy, you are able to in simple terms bypass forward and kick him out. :)
2016-11-27 02:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont take him to your parents house. I dont see why he would want to go if he's not wanted anyway. If the two of you are together forever, someday your parents will see that you are happy and hopefully they will be happy for you.
2006-10-08 18:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by rainbowbright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents should be happy your happy set down with them and talk with them explane that his the one you want and that he makes you happy if they don't like him don't bring him over I'd start going over to his house instead
2006-10-08 18:46:01 · answer #8 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that! But I would say your parents see something you can't. Maybe they don't like the way he talks to you or something. There is something there they don't think you can handle hearing from them.
2006-10-08 18:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no . your friend or your own problem, some women bring there boy friend over and a year or two they kill the hold family you see your mother and father just don't wont to have anything to do with him.
2006-10-08 18:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋