My nephew, about 36, likes to spend time with my 17-yr-old daughter. He is a very quiet fellow without a lot of friends. I'm sure there's nothing sexual about his interest, but it seems kind of odd that a 36-yr-old man would take such an interest in a teenager. He likes to go to the mall with her, take her out to eat, to amusement parks. He also helps her with homework.
2006-10-08 18:08:41 · 7 answers · asked by David S 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
added details: My nephew is married with a daughter, about 4. He was an only child. My wife, who is more "in your face" than me, has told his wife that she doesn't want him seeing my daughter any more. I think he's offended now. I think he and his wife, I and my wife should all get together and talk this out. My wife doesn't want to talk.
2006-10-08 18:54:40 · update #1
I think I would ask your daughter how she looks at him. Does she look on him as a "fun" dad type figure, an "uncle" type figure even though he is cousin, or just a great older cousin that spoils her. I am a year older and female, and I do some of the same things with other, younger family members. I look on them as my older kids. (I have a 13 year old.) I imagine he is thinking about not having kids if he is not dating, and he may just be a doting cousin/uncle/male figure in her life. Talk with your daughter, this might help you the most. :-)
2006-10-08 18:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by MimGregg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does seem a little odd, so keep a close eye on him. You don't want anything to happen.
Perhaps he just sees it as an "older brother" type thing. This is very possible if he doesn't have any younger sisters and if she does not have an older brother. I'm very close with both of my older brothers, a lot of girls are, so perhaps that's all it is. But still, keep an eye on them.
2006-10-09 01:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES very odd. i would be keeping a close eye if it werre my daughter. Talk to your daughter about it see if she is weirded out by it. Even if she says no keep 2 eyes and 2 ears open. And try to avoid ot much alone time.
2006-10-09 01:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kellen's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so sure it is so innocent. You need to have a talk with your daughter. It is unnatural for a man his age to have so much interest in a teen. Did you know that most cases of sexual molestation occur with family members?
2006-10-09 01:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it were my daughter I would be somewhat worried but I would also sit him down and talk to him,, there may be nothing from his side but then again knowing how 17 year old girls are she may have a crush on him because of his attention to her,,, either way i would discuss the situation with both of them
2006-10-09 01:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by too shy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would find that weird, keep an eye out. Go to the mall and see if you notice anything inappropriate going on...
2006-10-09 01:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds innocent enough, if you trust him....and her. Maybe discourage it, without coming out and saying so. You know that "banning" it will make it more appealing.
2006-10-09 01:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋