I have a guy friend, I like him more than a friend, but we don't have enough in common to date, (and a bunch of other stuff) so it just won't work. Healways talks about this friend of his, a girl. There is nothing going on between them, but it bugs me. I can't tell him flat out because I know it will hurt him. How can I hint that I don't want him to talk about her? Please, no nonsense answers. Thanks!
2006-10-08 18:00:56 · 10 answers · asked by michellinie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I was never good at hints, or picking up on emotional clues unless it's blatenly obvious (i.e. if she's mad and throwing things, she has to actually say "I'm pissed at you" for me to know she is mad at me). Say exactly what's on your mind and we're good (the less words the better though, cuz we usually shut off after 2 mintues or less)
2006-10-08 18:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by Gregor II 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you not interested in talking about any people,but you must listeneng him first as a way that concern and let the topic out of way and divert it like some interesting thing that bring his you know and then voila huh,invite him any place but the moment he talk to the same topic let him you start its up to you to manipulate his psychology.
2006-10-09 01:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by mario t. reoyan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do u even bother bout him talking bout other girl?? u KNOW u two wont work coz u guys have nothing in common! so, y bother?
and also, if u want him to stop talking bout other girl, y dont u start talking bout other guys..just make up a story bout this guy u really really like. his cute,charming etc... but he talks a lot bout other girls.and that u and this other guy have nothing in common..then ask him for some advice on will you and this 'other guy' can work a relationship??
2006-10-09 01:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by dolly parker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you honestly care about someone... you would honestly be interested in what they are. If it's another person... and you know you 2 can't work... whats the problem? Trying to control another person is never a good way to stay close to them... imagine if he asked you to not talk about someone/something. You'd lose your sense of confiding in that person wouldn't you?
When he talks about her... just nod and don't ask further questions. Don't blow him off... just don't pretend to be interested. Not to much to ask if he really is your friend.
2006-10-09 01:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by B L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky situation. You don't want to lose your friend, but if you really like him I'd consider telling him. Regret can be brutal.
2006-10-09 01:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by Walty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Siimple, just say you are getting really tired/board of hearing him talk about this girl.
2006-10-09 01:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you speak the same language, I would recommend communicating this idea with words...
we're guys, we need direct answers and statements, none of this pussy-footing stuff.
2006-10-09 01:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by bigcatbarber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down in a private place where both of you can talk, and explain what issues you are having.
2006-10-09 01:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by cobo6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds kind of selfish...you don't want him but you don't want him to want anyone else. make up your mind what you want to do....if you want to tell him that you care for him more than a friend...tell him. but if not, then he's allowed to talk to anyone he wants to
2006-10-09 01:09:38 · answer #9 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him..
2006-10-09 01:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋