my friend is the father of my child. we are not together, but we still have sex occasionally. he caught me with a girl and the problem is that he expects me to share. i dont want to, so what should i tell him? and if it comes down to it, i will get rid of him, hes so unimportant
2006-10-08 17:24:20 · 16 answers · asked by psychologistnovelist 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
he is mentally disturbed & pathetic!
he can't get a woman ofn his own without having to share?
don't even contemplate sharing your woman with him.
you're better off without him.
2006-10-08 17:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
He expects you to share? Like your girlfriend is a piece of property! If she does not want to what makes him think he has the right to be with both of you? I would drop that idiot and just be with your girl, especially if he is so unimportant. That would do it for me. He is NOT a friend.
2006-10-09 08:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he's so unimportant why are you still sleeping with him? you need to figure out what you want to do with your life, it sounds like your just drifting. also,why wasn't the bedroom (assuming) door locked? if you have a child you should never mess around without locking the door (straight or gay). it sounds like you need clear boundaries, i'm sorry if it sounds like i'm "on your case" i'm not just trying to understand. the child is the important one here, so make sure they're not confused by all this wishy washy back and forth stuff with the dad. good luck!!!
2006-10-09 06:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Stop having sex with him and deff. get rid of him. I mean if he is that unimportant then just end it. it will probably make your life less complicated
2006-10-09 01:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by BabyBella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think 99% of guys fantasise about being in bed with two ladies so he's not wierd or anything but you need to tell him that this part of your life is seperate to the one you have or had with him and if he won't accept it then dump him.
2006-10-09 12:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
psychologistnovelist,
I don't believe you.
It sounds more like someone trying to write a novel about a selfish stupid woman.
So okay, I like to write. Here have some drama:
So she looks at him defiantly. She thrusts his keys into his chest and says, " You mean so little to my life. All you are is a sperm donor. Get the F' out and stay away from me and stay out of my life. Your child will grow up without you, and I will teach her to hate you. You dick. Now get the f' out or I'll call the police!
He then takes his keys and leaves.
She lives her life in and out of bi sexual relationships and wonders why her kid, who is grown up now, cannot make the time to see her.
2006-10-09 04:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
God says its always good when people answer their own question. Like you said, he's unimportant so get rid of him! The very fact that he is demanding that you share is reason enough too.
2006-10-09 02:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by God 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Actually your friend is very important. He may not mean much to you, but he must mean something because you slept with him and his IS the father of your child. He has legal rights over the child and if he wanted to he could fight for the child. It is very important for a child to have both a mother and father in their life.
You will forever be connected to him.
Most importantly I encourage you to be selfless about this and look at the child's interests over yours. You gave up your right to think of only yourself when you made the Adult decision to have sex, and you must own up to the consequences. Take care of that child and provide the best and most loving atmosphere you can. If your "friend" isn't responsible enough to ask you to marry him and take care of the child then you might not want to be with him anymore, especially since he desires to take part in other sexual affairs with you and your female partner. That does not show love or respect for you at all.
I encourage you to seek counseling about how to take care of your child properly, and also go check out this website:
www.markcahill.org
Above all else, you should to be concerned about your eternal welfare.
Grace and Peace,
Thomas
2006-10-09 00:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas H 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Unless you agreed otherwise, he has a right to share in your child's life and upbringing. He has no rights over you.
2006-10-09 06:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all lock your door next time, till u kick his *** out of there, and for sure stop having sex with him until you do
2006-10-09 07:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by howie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to let him know how you feel..... and if he doesn't like it then he needs to move on! I hope you get this figured out hun!
2006-10-09 00:26:57 · answer #11 · answered by eroticmommy69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋