Is it pregnancy emotions or him being a jerk?

Question

Okay, first let me spill out the details of the sititation. Today my husband got off work and went to a friends house to watch some football (wasn't very happy about that but said okay) he came home watched more football and continued to drink more beer. I go outside to feed and play with our dog come in and his in the bedroom passed out watching some cartoon. I got no attention from him today. None at all. I tried once every hour for 5 hours to wake him up but he just mumbles and rolls over. What do I have to do to get his attention now days? I am 37 weeks pregnant. This will our first child and I want to spend as much time as possible with him before our daughter arrives. Am I just being "overly-emotional" or is he just being an inconsederate jerk?

Answer 1

If he doesn't spend time with you all day on a few occasions, you are probably being over sensitive, if it is a pattern, than he is being a jerk. Sometimes men need help being considerate though, he may not realize he is doing anything wrong untill you nicely and calmly tell him how you feel.

Answer 2

Congratulations on your impending birth of your first daughter,
It could be a little bit of both, but you need to remember he is trying to deal with the fact he is about to become a dad and maybe he isn't dealing with it as well as you had though he would. This is not good on you either having to deal with the moods and no attention especially as your feeling less sexy and hormonal. I hope you get some more attention but I think you should sit down and ask him to tell you how he is feeling about the whole baby issue most pregnancy's its all about the mother and baby and the father is forgotten or pushed aside, you need to find out if this is whats happening or what his problem is before bub is born so you can both enjoy the last few weeks as a couple before becoming a family.

I hope I haven't offended you at all I just had this problem with my husband before the birth of our daughter 2 years ago, he was just as scared about it all if not more then me. Men are sometimes overlooked and don't like to say anything as they are a man and don't think they should feel that way so hide it by blocking it out.

Good luck and hope bub is happy and healthy, As long as he experiences the birth your hubby will be a changed man. Make sure he gets plenty of first cuddles in before he has to go home after the birth. It will be amazing.

Answer 3

Both. your in an emotional state right now, and well understood. But he's also being an inconsiderate jerk! Is this what you have to look forward to when the baby comes, is he going to be watching the kid drinking and not be paying attention and pass out drunk, I think these are questions you need to ask your self and then ask him what kind of father is he going to be, he need to start being involved in the the daddy thing now so he has practice, it don't come with instructions, so he needs to start paying better attention in all directions.

Answer 4

I am torn between both. Did he do this before you got pregnant? Does he do this type of stuff every football season? Have you sat down and talked to him about this when he is sober? There are alot of factors that are left undone here. You have about 3 weeks before your due date which happens to fall in Football season, Is your husband going to act this way when the baby comes? Does he expect to be able to go get drunk with his friends with a newborn baby in the house in 3 or 4 weeks?? Hell are you sure this is the person you want for the rest of your life? He might have baby jitters or really is an a*sho*e either way you guys need to talk.

Answer 5

If he does stuff like this regularly, he's being an inconsiderate jerk.

If not, he may have just needed a day to unwind a little. Everybody needs them occasionally.

Either way, I don't see this as you being over-emotional. You have needs, he has needs, sometimes a couple's needs don't always match up. That's when you have to take a deep breath and say to yourself "This too shall pass".

And communicate communicate communicate! When you are NOT angry at him, talk about this. Tell him why you want to spend some extra time with him right now, ask him what's on HIS mind, etc.

Answer 6

Maybe you should talk to him. After all, the main point is that you two still love each other or not (don't hate me if you two break-up later because of me). Also try to make both of you not so stress since his emotion will affect you, and your emotion may affect your baby. It might be tough for a woman who is pregnant to not get some emotion since the baby might kick the mommy (even at night) or from something else. It's really hard and tough to run the family and not to get :over-emotional"; however, do your best.

Answer 7

OK if this is a one-time thing then you are being overly-emotional. He wants a day to himself, heck I thought you woman wanted that sometimes too. Now if this is constant then yeah he is a jerk. Even if it was a thing he did on Sundays I wouldn't neccessarly say he was a jerk. Another thing is was he like this last football season, I'm assuming you at least knew him then. That is how some guys are on football season.

Answer 8

Probably a little of both. I'm only 8 weeks pregnant (with our 3rd) and we're going through the same thing. He's irritated about the whole pg (it was unplanned) and doesn't want to be around me (or so it seems) and I'm emotional and feel like I'm being neglected. Try to talk to him, but don't be 'needy' or whiney about it (like I do ;) ). That only seems to irritate my husband more...Just casually tell him that with the baby coming soon you should make a point to spend quality time together. Good luck and don't take it too personally...he's a MAN!! :)

Answer 9

I'd say, it's a little bit of both. Trust me, one day of unnatention from a man is nothing, nothing at all on the grand scale of things. You decided that you want to spend more time with him before your choild arrives. Did you inform him of your decision? Did he say he wants to spend more time with you too? Unless you told him, he wouldn't know. They are simple creatures. Too simple, sometimes. He's probably freeking out about it in his own way - he may be thinking that he'll never get to watch his (stupid) football again once the baby is born.

Bottom line: talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Exspress your desires clearly. Ask him what's his desires, too.

Answer 10

Talk to him about it. I don't think I would have appreciated it very much either. But your emotions and things do run high. Maybe he just misunderstood you or wasn't catching the signals or he had a bad day at work. Talk to him about it tomorrow. Tell him he really hurt your feelings and you didn't like it. Can you 2 hang out tomorrow night? You won't have much time after a few weeks to be just the 2 of you. See what he says.But remember you know you aren't going to have much time for each other but he also knows he isn't going to have much time for his friends either. He should have some time with them but also make time for you. TALK TO HIM and let him know.