i stopped talking to him in hopes that it would help me let him go.. but that just makes me miss him more! i think about him every day, all the time, i remember things we used to do, i dream and daydream about him.
it has been a month since i told him i was cutting off all contact, three months since we broke up.. yes, we are ex's for a reason, but things change. ive changed....i still love him and i dont know if me not being able to let go is a sign that maybe i should give him a call and try to fix things???
any thoughts? seriosu answers, thanks!!
2006-10-08 17:02:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and yes it was a long, serious relationship and i love him dearly.
2006-10-08 17:12:23 · update #1
i know how you feel. you need to follow your heart. no matter what others might tell you. and what ever the reasons were that you broke up in the first place you must have dealt with, other wise you would not be feeling the way you do today. so follow your heart!!! call him and take one day at a time. but you need to be able to let the past be in the past. if you cant do that then let well enough alone.
2006-10-08 17:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You not being able to let go is not a sign of anything. It's normal. You have to go through a grieving process, remembering all the good stuff and conveniently forgetting all the bad stuff.
Make yourself think about the bad stuff. Things change but people don't, not deep down. What was it about his behaviour / attitude / personality that made you leave him? If you got back together, would it still be a problem?
You need to get out and do other things to take your mind of this man. Keep yourself busy. It will pass.
2006-10-09 00:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You not being able to let go (yet) is a sign that you had a serious relationship with him.
How has he changed? If he were the problem and hasn't changed, then you will be developing a boomerang relationship by starting it up again.
Do other productive things to give your brain something else to think about.
2006-10-09 00:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by asperens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think about why you guys split up in the first place. Are you sure you want him back, and think carefully. You have to find out if he still has feelings for you because its not worth it if he doesn't want you back. There are many more fish in the sea, and you didn't say how long you guys were together so why not just hang out with friends and find a new guy?
2006-10-09 00:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all youir thoughts about him are signs that maybe you should let go of your anger and try and fix things. Maybe there are things in you that you needed to resolve, maybe things will be different....maybe just the communication is unfinished and needs closure. I am not sure, you should be at least open to finding out...you also should provide more detail in your question.
2006-10-09 00:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by calliope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to get out and meet someone else. Never go back. A woman loses credibility and some of her power when she does that.
He has probably moved on by now anyway.
2006-10-09 00:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by tina m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋