How can i get over my bff dying?

Question

my best friend for 7 years died in a car accident yesterday!!! :(((( her mom was driving across an intersection and this drunk lady crashed into the car at like 60 mph

we were so close! i'm crying as i write this so if you have experinced this kind of trauma can you pelese help me?

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Answer 1

I think you need to get off the computer first of all. Surround yourself with people you love such as your family and other friends. You will in time learn to live with it, but I'm sure you'll never fully get over it. Good luck and I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

You have to believe that she is in a better place than this world.
Try sitting alone in a church of your choice. While you are there, try to think of all the joy she brought into your life. Too, you have to cry, you have to cry hard!

We are not promised tomorrow, not the next hour. If you truly loved your friend, she will live on, in your greater self. And she will always be there for you.

Think this way; GOD called her home because she had finished what HE sent her here to do. Her purpose in coming was to show you what true friendship is and how to experience it because your purpose for being here is to befriend someone you do not know yet.

That time will come and you will be tested, the sincerity, depth, and love that you will be required to give that person, in order to give meaning to his/her life will call upon all that you are, all that you believe, all the different facets of your character.

And because of this, you will raise that persons spirit to a level as high or higher than the one you knew with your friend. And as that persons life rebound from emptiness, your friend will be smiling in your heart, you will know, for sure that she is there and what now is sadness to you will become like a great light that touches every corner of your secret self.

Cry, cry long and hard, your tears are the preparation for the task ahead.

THE MADMAN

Answer 3

Dang! I am so sorry for your loss. We lost a neighbor not long ago too. I don't know if she was drunk though I think she just wasn't paying attention. There hangs on the sidewalk flowers, pictures and posters of the boy and his memories. It was an 11 year old and he got run over. There's a poem with the signs saying something like if you feel the breeze that's just me kissing you....don't cry mommy something like that don't cry daddy, if you feel tight around your ...that's just me hugging you...see you in heaven. Love ****

Answer 4

At first you get through it one minute at a time, then one hour and later one day at a time. Later, you remember something funny she said and you laugh. Still, there will be many tears, and that's okay. Maybe one day, you will want to do something in her memory, like organize a chapter of SADD at your school. For now, talk to people - your friends and family, and let them know how you are feeling. It is really good to talk about this. I'll be thinking about you and praying for you to have the courage to get through the coming days. I am very sorry this happened to your friend and am sad for the friendship you lost. Take care...

Answer 5

The only way with getting over the death of a loved one is time. Time to heal, time to cope and deal with it. I mean it just happened yesterday, and I'm really sorry to hear that. Man I seen a neighbor get killed and die in front of my eyes as well as his children... I seen my boyfriend get shot in front of my eyes and he almost died. I can talk about it now but it did traumatize me for a lil; bit. I lost a lot of weight and I was really disorientated. But he's living and it's a learning experience now, especially because it could've been me. But just think about the good times you guys had and what made you guys laugh. A funeral is about commemorating their life, not greivance even though everyone is sad....

Answer 6

My fiancee of 5.5 years died 4/10/06 and you have to go day by day. When I feel overwhelmed I concentrate on breathing to lessen the anxiety. Also you should find somebody to talk to about it and that will ease the pain as you will be able to work through the pain.

Answer 7

Oh Sweetie, I am deeply sorry for your loss here and yes I can definitely relate to what your feeling. I would be disappointed in you if you didn't cry. It shows how much you really loved and cared for her. It also helps with the grieving process which is so important to help with the pain that your feeling. Hang in there....

Answer 8

I'm so sorry for your traumatic loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you. Time will help to ease your pain, but doing something constructive would be a nice memorial to your friend...for example...organize a rally to raise money to be donated to MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving) and the proceeds donated in your friends name

Answer 9

It is going to take some time for you to overcome feelings of grief from this loss. You will remember your friend as long as you live. Memories of the good times will keep you close to your friend but passing time will help to heal your feelings of loss. Many people turn to their faith for strength and support in times of grief and loss such as yours. You have my sympathy and best wishes.

Answer 10

I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!

By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra