My husband said that it is really of no use to build or buy a house since we have no children together. Obviously he does not want any of my children from my previous marriage to get our property. I am really disappointed with this attitude since we have agreed couple of years back that we will get a house of our own to retire. Is he acting this way because he does not love me as much? He has cheated and betrayed me and we are still working to make our marriage work, I feel sad about this new development in him.
2006-10-08 16:58:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well it seems to me that you want to get a house for all the wrong reasons. you said that "he" does not want to get a house because "he" does not want your children from your past marriage to get the property. well if this is the messege that you are sending to him. i dont blame him. you need to fell that you want this because you want this life with him. not your kids!! and i think that maybe he feels that you dont love him as much!! that maybe your only in it for what might be left behind.
2006-10-08 17:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but it sounds like he's thinking short term-----that the marriage might not make it, hence his reluctance to build or buy a home. He's cheated on you, and now you are faced with more evidence of his lack of committment to the marriage. It seems to me that if he cheated on you, he should be the one working hard to prove to you that he is committed to you and the marriage and regaining your trust.
2006-10-09 00:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, is it worth being with this guy? Are you just scared to be alone? You should really, really sit down and think about why you're with someone who would betray and cheat on you and then not want to even support you with building/buying a house. Please reconsider your needs here. Your self esteem takes a hit every moment you're with someone you can't really trust.
2006-10-09 00:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by gentle understanding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww. You have children but does he? Could he be jealous about not having any children?
At any rate you need to tell him how you feel, and about your dissapointments. Thats what relationships are about, talking. You both definately need to sit down and talk about long term goals. That way you are both on the same page. Good luck.
2006-10-09 00:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your reality check. If he has already cheated and betrayed you, either you need to talk and find out what is going on and try to work it out or it will not be much longer before it is over.
2006-10-09 00:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by Justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is pretty selfish! how can you go on in this? i sure couldn't! my son's are my life! my right hand and my left hand , that is how much my boys are to me {grown} however , if i were in that type of relationship , i would somehow find my own strenght in myself , get something to leave for eah one that is all yours and can be left in a "will". have him no part of this , wheter it be property or jewlery or whatever it is you want to leave your childern! get a secret account just for your childern after your death and leave them as benificiary's! don't let him do this to you , you can do your own thing here! good luck honey may god touch you!
2006-10-09 07:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no children together, it may just be time to move on.... It doesnt sound good to me... doesnt sound like he's going to settle down with you. Sounds like he wants to be as unattached as possible but still be attached. I know that sounds weird, but its true.
2006-10-09 00:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he still has his doughts about the marriage
2006-10-09 00:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by a1_friend64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋