My boyfriend doesnt want to tell everyone til the 3 month mark. We had an arguement because i want to tell everyone now. My boyfriends older sister is also pregnant and due in 2 months.
2006-10-08 16:47:08 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My boyfriend doesnt want to tell everyone til the 3 month mark. We had an arguement because i want to tell everyone now. My boyfriends older sister is also pregnant and due in 2 months. She is a very chilled out down to earth loving person i know she would be happy for us. I want to tell everyone because the lying an hiding is gettin to me aka havin 2, 21st coming up in the next 3 weeks then my birthday. i am turning 20 in nov and my boyfriend is 21.
2006-10-08 17:16:05 · update #1
He doesnt seem that happy but i guess its still early days. He just doesnt seem as supportive makes me feel as this baby is a burden and has ruined his life which is stressing me out another reason why i want to tell ppl even just ppl close to us (i guess i have my mind made up) so i have the support and help i am not receiving from him i feel he will be the reason of a miscarriage.
2006-10-08 17:21:57 · update #2
There is no "perfect time" to tell everyone - it varies from couple to couple. Some are comfortable telling everyone immediately after confirming the pregnancy (I was!) Others prefer to wait a few weeks for the news to sink in, or even till the end of the first trimester when the risk of miscarriage decreases. Chances are, you'll start to develop a bit of a baby belly around this time as well, and won't be able to keep it a secret for much longer!
So, choose the time that feels right to you, and to your boyfriend. Perhaps you could compromise and agree to tell everyone about halfway through the first trimester?
Congratulations on your pregnancy!
2006-10-08 16:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by ragmama210 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until 3 months, then you're in the clear (a miscarriage can happen w/in the first 3 mos). My sis had a miscarriage not long after she told everyone & it wasn't fun, she had to tell so many people that she miscarried, & that was something that would of been better left alone w/out so many people asking questions & reminding her of it. And, you'll wanna wait cuz when you get preg people ask a lot of the same questions all the time & believe it or not, you'll get tired of it & it'll make your pregnancy drag. Let your boyfriends sis enjoy her time being pregnant & having her baby, then when her baby is 1 month old, it will be your time to break the news & "shine".
2006-10-09 00:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a few were saying before, the first trimester is the critical one. However, I always have told once I reach the 6 week mark. If you feel you are not getting support from him and you really need someone to talk to then, then by all means tell at least another close friend. That in itself would help take some tentsion off of you. Good luck and pray about it.
2006-10-09 07:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mandee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but I think your boyfriend is right. There are tons of complications that can happen before the end of your first trimester and if you were to have a miscarriage, you can imagine the horror of telling everyone what happened. After the first trimester, risks of miscarriage drop exponentially, so it's safe to tell everyone the good news. Besides, no one will be able to notice anything until about month 4, so it can just be your little secret until then! Congratulations!
2006-10-08 23:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by asthenia394 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was so excited I told everyone right away I just told them that it was still very early on my boyfriend waited until I was 3 months before he told his family. I think it is up to you the reason people wait is incase anything happens I guess they don't want to have to explain it but I kinda decided that if anything happened I would be so upset and sad that I would have to explain anyways so I guess to each his own. By the way I think a lot of guys don't start getting excited until later in the pregnancy.
2006-10-09 03:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by PediRN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulations!!!!!
when my fiance found out i was pregnant for the first time we told people straight away and 1 week later i miscarried, which is usually why people decide to hold off on telling people.
i am now pregnant again and we have a son aswell. and we still told people straight away.
i think there isnt really a perfect time to tell people its just when you feel ready.
however im glad i told my mum i was pregnant with my 1st son when i did because she passed away like 2 weeks later so if i held off she would not have known she was going to be a grandma for the second time around.
try not to argue too much because stress and fighting with my boyfriend is what cause our first miscarriage.
i think if you canhold off until he feels ready then you both will be happy and excited when you finally do tell people if you know what im saying.
congratulations and good luck
2006-10-09 00:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule is 3 months, because ( I don't want to scare you) but it is still VERY easy to miscarry in the first 3 months. So it is better to be quiet just in case. Most miscarriages happen in that first trimester often for no reason at all. ..but I have 3 boys and I told everyone, especially my mom, I told strangers WAY before my 3rd month. Congrats and good luck!
2006-10-08 23:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many couples prefer to wait before telling people because the first trimester is when most miscarriages occur...then the couple has to re-tell everyone sad news and it's painful enough to go thru without having to answer why there won't be a baby. Just celebrate privately until you and your boyfriend are both ready. CONGRATULATIONS!!!
2006-10-08 23:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband told our parents and sisters and borthers right away, but held off on the rest of the family and friends till the 12 week mark ( we had a previous miscarriage and didnt want to be upset if it happened again).
2006-10-09 07:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he want to wait? Is he afraid of miscarriage or is he ashamed? Is he happy about the baby? Maybe he just needs time to get used to the idea before having to deal with everyone else. I would talk to him about it and see why he wants to wait and if his answer if along those lines, I would try to respect his feelings.
2006-10-08 23:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋