My boyfriend doesnt want to tell everyone til the 3 month mark. We had an arguement b/c i want to tell everyone now. His older sister is also pregnant and due in 2 months.
2006-10-08 16:45:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She is a very chilled out down to earth loving person i know she would be happy for us. I want to tell everyone because the lying an hiding is gettin to me aka havin 2, 21st coming up in the next 3 weeks then my birthday. i am turning 20 in nov and my boyfriend is 21.
He doesnt seem that happy but i guess its still early days. He just doesnt seem as supportive makes me feel as this baby is a burden and has ruined his life which is stressing me out another reason why i want to tell ppl even just ppl close to us (i guess i have my mind made up) so i have the support and help i am not receiving from him i feel he will be the reason of a miscarriage.
2006-10-08 17:24:31 · update #1
Don't hide what is the truth. You should tell now as soon as possible. Don't wait tomorrow will come . This is the time to act. Because we don't know what will happen tomorrow. But be sure that you are pregnant before you will confirm it. There are times that women have no menstruation in a month. I don't know what is the reason but I am quite sure that there are times that it will happen. Good luck... I admire you for having the courage and the wisdom of to say what is the truth. Congratulations
2006-10-08 16:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by psychedelic_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to consider your boyfriend's reasons. Some people are excited, but also want to wait until they're sure that everything will be ok. Even if you don't tell, there's a chance that some will figure it out. My grandmother had an uncanny way of knowing, just by looking at you.
If you tell people, you can enlist their support. It also helps them feel included in your life. It's a great time for bonding.
Most impotantly, try to include your husband as much as possible in the pregnancy. Sometimes, some men begin to feel a bit left out as the attention is focussed on the mother. If possible, have him come with you for your check-ups, ultrasound and the like. It's been shown that babies can hear from whithin the womb. Let your husband talk, or sing, if comfotable to his daughter or son.
Anyway, these are just a few ideal.
Oh yeah.... CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!
2006-10-09 00:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations,
Its wonderful your so excited my husband was really excited when we found out we were pregnant and I was the one who wanted to keep it quiet as my sister in law is also pregnant and we were pregnant at the same time with our daughters, It can be a good idea to keep it to yourself until the 12 week mark in case you loose the baby, but its also a good idea to keep it only in the immediate family until that point. At leased if you do miscarry your family will be able to support you, I accidental slipped and blabbed at 9 weeks it was good to let it out and others got excited with us, but it is a decision for you and you partner to make together.
whats the reason he wants to keep it to yourself, it can be a wonderful thing to share with just you two and after the birth of your sister in law it will be even more of a surprise, it could be looked at as you have kept it so your sister in law had all the attention on her while the baby is been born and then you will have your time.
Try to respected your partner as it is his news to.
2006-10-09 01:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by mj_missi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you have a great pregancy and a happy and healthy baby, but it's odd to me that an unmarried woman would be so excited to tell her family and friends that she's pregnant. Your family and friends are more accepting than the ones I know!! Good for you!! ;o)
2006-10-08 23:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait til week 9. I would tell my mom asap, but everyone else can wait. Not to scare you, but I misscarried at 8 weeks and it sucked to tell people. I just wished nobody knew except for people really close to you.
2006-10-08 23:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by Emily H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait till you are three month, sometimes things don't go the way we want them. Trust me I have 5 Children and I should have 6 ..plz just wait.
2006-10-08 23:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by Eonix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its usually safe to wait until your first trimester is over...this is because miscarrages are most likely at this stage. if you are arguing instead of telling everyone, maybe discuss just telling your parents or something like that....also if you are employed i'd wait even longer to tell them....like when others would be able to tell you look pregnant.
2006-10-08 23:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by my101201cutiepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait till your sis n law has her baby, then announce it. Or she might feel like you are raining on her parrade. And then you will be over your critical time of your pregnancy and will be sure not to miscarry.
2006-10-08 23:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by Jewelz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the sister has told everyone then you have too! If they find out you've been keeping it a secrect yet the sister said something your screwed...
2006-10-08 23:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the 6 week mark is always a good start, tell them then
2006-10-08 23:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋