I'm single and feel lonely often. I day dream of being with someone but at the same time the thought of a relationship is scarey and alot of work? I'm so confused.
2006-10-08 16:38:16 · 6 answers · asked by lilbandit77 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You know your not the only person in this world is lonely, i understand what you feel coz me too im not into a relationship coz before i was hurt and being heart broken but i learned from it so im not scared at all. For you dont be alone, dont be scared cheer up go and meet new guys who knows you will find a nice guy out there that will make you happy....but just put in your mind if you are ready to be inlove also be ready to get hurt. Cheer up girl live life to the fullest and be happy as life goes on.
2006-10-08 17:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by jacky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you feel that way. There are a couple of possible reasons.
One is fear of failure or rejection. Everyone has this fear, but some people are so afraid, they won't even try anything new, in case it fails. Of course, the result is that they have a very boring life and never achieve anything! If you think that's your problem, then you need to work on it. Remember the definition of courage is "feel the fear, and do it anyway."
Now for the other reason. When you're single you can do anything you want, any time. You only have to please yourself. When you're in a relationship, you have to make compromises.
The trouble is, when they meet a man, women have a habit of making ALL the compromises to fit in with him, instead of making sure the "give and take" is equal. So while it's nice to have a guy around, it's almost a relief when it's over: because amongst all the tears and heartache, there's that great feeling that you can actually do what YOU want to do, for a change.
Could that be why you think relationships are a lot of work?
2006-10-08 16:56:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over analyzing the situation that is why you are in this peckadilla. Okay, first everyone gets lonely...so that is normal...but the relationship thing...you are taking way out of context. Only relationships that develop take a lot of work...like marriages. Relationships like dating don't really take that much out of you...and you should be happy to meet other people. I am glad that I dated so many people at a young age because I got to meet so many different and interesting people that help me now that I am older because of the businesses that they went into. Take my ex's...one is a realtor, one is a graphic designer, one is a mechanic, another is a public relations specialist, another owns his own construction company...so there alone I can buy a house cheaper, get all the shirts I want designed for free, get my car fixed for free, use the newspaper as my tool for advertising, and fix the house that I bought for cheap all because of the relationships that I "tried on for size" when I was lonely.
2006-10-08 16:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Natty137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahahaha u r so silly. i live alone and sometimes feel lonely. but to be in a relationship is not hard work. to be with a boy friend is being with someone u like and to play with when u were a kid. now that u r older, u hold hands and kiss and talk about school and life. its only difficult if the other person is not sharing similar interests with you. u want to go to beach and he wants to work on his car. stuff like this everyone goes thru. so chill out and enjoy making many new friends and ur whole life will change.
2006-10-08 16:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by Necat T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youre 21! bypass out and revel on your existence. you have been with the comparable guy considering you have been sixteen. you will desire to get out and meet alot of diverse people and journey countless issues. 3 policies in existence. one million) Dont marry absolutely everyone under 25. 2) Dont marry absolutely everyone until eventually you're a minimum of 25. 3) Have a professional occupation which you would be able to help your self on, and be sure the guy you're with,(when you're 25), has their own occupation that they are in a position to assist themselves on. Get out and revel on your existence.
2016-12-16 04:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is okay to be scared when u find the right guy u will now that it will be worth taking the risk
2006-10-08 16:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋