He loves me and i love him and i know this even though i am young.I know my parents love me and want the best for me but how can i make them understand that i will be happy with my soon to be husband?I dont want to hurt my family or my boyfriend i am so confused...I am also planning to go to college but my bf will work and i will go to school.I dont want to live with him without being married cause thats against my religion.
2006-10-08 16:21:00 · 6 answers · asked by Mommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's your heart. honestly, my boy is a nerd, he goes to an engineering school with mostly guys, he likes to read and ride his bike a lot, and we love to do stuff with our church. But he's the love of my life, and I wouldn't change him for the world.
2006-10-08 16:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ask&Receive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok dont live with him until you feel ready, that can turn out to be a big mistake. Plus you have to sit with your parents and let them know that they have raised a child that is now blossiming into a young lady and that they should trust their selves enough to think that you will make the right decisions alone without their help. Plus the fact that evryone has to go down their own path adn make their own decisions, that they will nto always be around to make decisions for you so to let you learn from your own trial and error, and if everythign works out ok but if not then at least you have learned adn experienced this so you know what not to do in the fufute.
2006-10-08 23:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by beautifulpersona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what's the hurry? Your parents just want to see you get a solid start to your future; marriage is hard enough without adding the stress of school and paying for it on top of that. And yes, if you're getting married, you should expect to pay for school yourself. You are essentially saying you are an adult now and ready to move on to another life. They're probably thinking that you'll get pregnant and then drop out of school. And if you say "that won't happen", you're already exhibiting some of the pie in the sky thinking that says you're rushing this.
If you're in love like you say you are, you'll be willing to do the smart thing. Your parents are trying to guide you in a mature way. Show them you 2 are as ready to get married as you say you are and be adults and put yourself in a better position to succeed in life by waiting.
2006-10-08 23:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and he loves you and things are good , then you have to do what your heart tells you . You have to live for yourself and make yourself happy, depends on how young you are but you can wait for a while to see how things go rather then getting married now and find out things arnt working out.
2006-10-08 23:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by a1_friend64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time ... your parents may come to like him (mine did!). In the meantime, go to college and show you parents that you want to do things right and can make good decisions on your own. That way, even if they don't like him, they will trust and respect you and your decision.
2006-10-08 23:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by sexy_lil_butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a question...after you get married who is going to pay for your college? Tuition isn't cheap and the books aren't either. Once you are married you parents are no longer obligated to pay for your college, are you going to get a job to pay for it all or is your husband going to pay for it? Does he have the finances? Do you have the finances to take out a student loan?
2006-10-08 23:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋