I'm 24 and a lesbian. The thing is I'm not out to anyone who really matters. I've never been out on a date or even kissed anyone. I have family obligations and a job that keep me busy. How will I ever find love if I keep hiding myself away from the world? The thing that bothers me the most is I'm afraid to dissapoint anyone or let them down.
2006-10-08 16:14:31 · 20 answers · asked by ashley101 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
surely you'll find someone someday. Just be patient...
try dating on your free time that you DO have or go to a lesbian dating website.
2006-10-08 16:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For starters don't worry about disappointing other people, if you do that then you will have no self esteem.2nd thing how can you be a lesbian if you had never kissed anyone? and finally your young enough, don't worry about it (but don't take too long )
what kind of work do you do? can you go out with any co-workers or maybe there friends as well. How about your area anywhere for you to go? Anyway what I'm trying to say is put yourself out there let the world see who you are. And good luck with the search
2006-10-08 23:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by ericusa3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will find love and/or happiness when you least expect it dear. Maintain your goals. Stay on the path to success. If you follow your dreams and your goals, only good things can come of it. The most important person that you shouldn't disappoint or let down is yourself. Find out what is most important in your life and go from there.
2006-10-09 00:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by littletease3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better time management, and keep your eyes open. Ignore what other people think and enjoy your life. If you really want to go out, tell someone that you can't do something for them because for once in your life you've set aside a little "me" time. Go out to a club. Maybe try volunteering. I heard from other single lesbians that there's a lot of other single lesbians that do volunteer work.
2006-10-08 23:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was 37 when i found true love,been with her for almost 4 years now.You will have people in your life,they will come and go,but you will know without a doubt if you really love someone.Don't worry about disappointing anyone-be true to yourself,don't disappoint yourself.If you are faithful,and trustworthy,how could you let anyone down?You just need to build up your self esteem,if your not ready to come out-then don't.But you may never be ready,and thats ok too!Wish u the best!
2006-10-08 23:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dear Ashley,
Do not try; or at least not so hard. As I read it you have a full life and may find that friendship will keep you going. Friends are the gold and silver in relationships. LOVE, which may be just around the corner. is the GOLD.
Bright blessings to you, Rose P.
2006-10-08 23:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by rose p 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is scary, you sound exactly like me! i mean that with good respect. i am 24, Bi and never out on a date or kissed anyone myself. i feel exactly the same way. too weird.
Maybe it's that we are always stuck with doubts and too much pondering about many things. i guess the best way is probably get into groups or something. or maybe people here may know an answer that can help us.
2006-10-09 00:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by mystic_lonewolf22 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God says, you will find love when you are ready to accept it and put yourself first. You haven't done that in a very long time and need to start to otherwise youre life may pass you by before you know its gone. Step out, and embrace the world, it can be a great place to be!.
2006-10-09 03:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by God 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont really agree with the whole les thing. However every decision we make has a result. If you regret a few of the decisions youve made you still have plenty of time to change them. Though, not something to jump into very fast. Spend more time with your friends. Try not to get over anxious. Let the world come to you by spending more time in it but dont let the world control you. Goods things come to those who wait for the train choose the right one and get on when they see it.
2006-10-08 23:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by accessmemorex 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hi, my name is ashley, too!
and i'm also a lesbian!
i've had 3 failed relationships with girls.
and right now, i'm in my 4th one.
we've been together for 3 1/2 years already.
our families know about us.
and we're actually living together now.
so, i don't see any reason why you won't find love.
all in due time.
i've learned that love comes when you least expect it.
g'luck!
2006-10-09 04:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋