Why get married?

Question

Now really what do you get here that you don't get as a single person or in a just non-legally binded monogamous relationship.

If you want to be with the same person for the rest of your life fine, but why sign a contract? You can just be together.

Answer 1

Ask homosexuals this question. Don't take your rights for granted. Be some what thankful you could marry if you wanted.

Answer 2

I've tried both. What I discovered was that a "non legally-binding relationship", at least in this country, can be just as bound with legal red tape as a marriage.

Having gone through a divorce, I deliberately didn't marry my next partner, thinking it would be easier to untangle if anything went wrong. Unfortunately when it did go wrong, untangling was three times more difficult and four times more expensive. Reason being that divorce has clear legal guidelines on who gets what, whereas a split between two unmarried people has none.

So this time, in my third relationship, I knew there was no benefit in NOT getting married. In fact, if things do go wrong (and I'm confident they won't), then it will be much less messy to dissolve a marriage than a live-in relationship.

And to me, the wedding ceremony was my chance to show off to the world what a truly wonderful man I'd met and what a deep commitment we were making to each other.

Answer 3

1. If you don't have a will and you die, your monogamous relationship will not matter. Your money, etc, will all go to your next living RELATIVE. Your significant other will get nothing. Also, even if said significant other IS in your will, your family could argue that she is not a relative and thereby perhaps get all of your possessions, leaving her, again, with nothing.

2. ICU visitation is only allowed to family members, not girlfriends/boyfriends, regardless of how serious you are.

3. If you have kids and end up separating, she can deny you visitation really easily. Likewise, he doesn't have to pay child support.

4. Unfortunately, it is still a bit taboo to not be married after a certain age. (I don't like that that's true, but it is.) People will start to question your personality and/or sexuality, even with a monogamous relationship.

If you're single, then none of that (but number 4) really matters.

Answer 4

A legal contract and a real pain in the *** when you want to break the contract, but at least you get a legal entitlement to half of the stuff. I guess there are some good reasons. A marriage in the eyes of God is a living sacrament that grows with you. I guess it offers some security, albeit false. Good question. I think it is crap, but at the same time want it as well.

Answer 5

You get the privilege of joint custody of your children, the right to demand monogamy in your marriage, the right to sole, legal custody of your children if something happened to your mate, the peace of mind that your relationship is recognized by the laws of the land, the church and God (if you believe in God), and the growing sense of unity with someone on whom you may be able to turn to for comfort, intimacy and assurance that that person intends to always be there for you in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer and someone from whom you will receive monetary profits upon their death. You get none of that as a single person or in a relationship not legally binding.

Answer 6

I don't know why people get married. The whole thing should be illegal. Women don't need men anymore like they did long ago they could just stay single and have their freedom and independence and use a man for her physical needs when she wants and that's it instead of getting married which is just modern day slavery and oppression. And since (most?)men can't be monogomous anyway I really can't understand why the hell they'd get married. Nobody is putting a gun to their head. The only reason ppl might get married is religious reasons but most people have sex b4 marriage anyway so what's the point?

Answer 7

You get a life long commitment to face anything that life throws at you together. It is based on sharing, caring, trusting and honesty. It is about commiting yourself to someone in front of God, your family and your friends. Working with and for each other. You do that to an extent when you just live together, but marriage is so much deeper and has more meaning to it.

Answer 8

You get legal security, for one. But as someone who lived with a partner for 5 years before getting married (now for 4 years) I must say it's more emotionally rewarding. Of course marriage has no gaurantees, but if two people love & respect eachother, and have the same matrimonial goals, it's rewarding to share your life with them.

Answer 9

Rights you don't have the next of kin right in hospital stays incase of death with no will you have no say in what happens with a life you have built together. I don't personaly beleave in the relgiuos part but the commitment part I feel is worth it to let the people who sare your life know that this is forever is for me reason enoughf.

Answer 10

First, Jesus doesn't intend for people to sleep together until they are married, God made woman for man, TO keep from being alone and growing old and bitter,,, to create a family life and to have someone to spend the rest of your life with. The list just goes on and on. ............... In God's eyes marriage between two people is sacred let no man come between,,,,

Answer 11

nothing apart from the paper, the legals and the ceremony. It guess it would be a wonderful day to show everyone how much you love each other and besides if you ever broke up you get half! hehe