Women only please?

Question

If you have had an affair (only ones that did please).was it really worth it ? Did it last ? Were you happier ? I'm not judging you I just really want to know For you that want to answer that have not ever had an Affair please do not waste my time or their's with your silly remarks Thanks in advance for your cooperation

Thank you so far for your honest answers My wife had an affair and I 'm still curious as to why :) oh yes black and sassy was reported by me as well. Please people if you did not then do not answer. Thanks again to you that have

Answer 1

Ive never cheated on my husband, but i have cheated on a live in bf before.. and no it wasnt worth it, i felt like the scum of the earth for doing such a thing, i came out and told the truth to my bf, and he was willing to try and forgive me unfortunately i couldnt forgive myself for the pain i was putting him through.. it doesnt change ur life to have an affair in a good way its only a temporary "high" reality is sitting right there waiting for u when u get back.. and to many people get hurt in the process, i was a young adult at the time that i messed up, but i wish all the time that i could wipe that away because i know how much pain i caused him...i had never seen so much hurt in someone's eyes before that the cause was from me, and up till then his eyes shined brightly when he looked at me, then after he looked at me differently..and i couldnt bare it.. was it worth it, NOPE not for one moment was it worth it.. and it was a stupid mistake that i made when i was younger , and i never want to make anyone ever hurt that way ever again..

Answer 2

I had an affair on a long term boyfriend. Was it worth it? Not at all. At the time my bf and I were on bad terms but when things improved between I felt HORRIBLE. To this day I know that it was something I shouldn't have done and would never do again. Imagine if it were u on the recieving end. If its someone u really love u wouldn't wanna hurt them in that way even if they have hurt u. And if it's someone u dont love its better to leave than to cheat. Besides what is done in the dark will eventually come to light and what goes around comes around. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

No it is not worth it.I was not married but the guy i cheated on is my now 5yr olds daddy.I was 18,very young & into having a good time.I cheated with a guy & ended up getting pregnant not to long after wards.I know the man i cheated on was the father.We had some problems when i was 5mths preg.& i started feeling guilty so i told him in a heated arguement.We did'nt stay together.He left right then & got another girl pregnant.He is a piece of sh** daddy to my 5 yr old.He pays me 20$ a week & has only called twice in 5yrs.He only sees him once a yr.I know we would'nt have stayed together whether i cheated or not,but some how i feel like that is why he is not a good father.He is now married to the other girl he got pregnant & alls they both do is run around cheating on each other.It really is'nt worth it in the end if u r not going to stay with that person.People grow apart,they don't seem to stay together as long as they use to.But if you are married & you don't want to give that up,you should not make the mistake of cheating.That is all will turn out to be in the end,a MISTAKE.

Answer 4

I did. Was it worth it? No that's a hard one to answer. It did end a 13 year marriage. Was the marriage over in my heart already, yes, but I still shouldn't have hurt him the way I did. He didn't deserve that. I am currently married to the man I had the affair with. Almost one year now. I honestly feel he is my sole mate. He's my best friend too. Don't make the mistake of ending something truly worth wild.

Answer 5

I had a affair on a long time boyfriend. You ask was it worth it? At the time I would say yes but now i don't think so. It hurts. He was married. I was in a relationship where I did not feel special. I felt alone worthless and unloved. I fell out of love with my boyfriend, but was afraid to admit it. For fear of what people would think. I turned to a friend for comfort. He was there to listen and be a shoulder to cry on. In the mean time he and his wife were going through some hard times and I repaid the favor. I was there for him as a friend.. One night while we were out things happened. It was amazing--It happened a few more times but he is still unsure what he wants so this is why I am hurt. I would give up everything for him but I refuse to be the reason his marriage ends.. So I have given up if he comes to me and wants to be with me I will take him completely but I can not be the other woman..It hurts to much. I wish you the best with your wife. I would suggest to sit her down and talk find out why because there is a reason--even if she will not admit it.

Answer 6

my husband left me after 2 yrs of marriage and within a month found a girlfriend, so was that cheating? I could have torn her eyes out and I found the deep meaning to the phrase: "Angry enough to spit!"

later he came back to me and we moved to make a fresh start, but he left me twice more, and the third time, one of his friends came over and we kissed and hugged, but never went all the way. My husband knew he was there, though, and later came back again, and told me he drove by the house about 6 times.

I never felt guilty about it because I've always felt that his own behavior left me unprotected. I never loved that person and I never even thought of cheating. I just forgot about it. I have a really bad memory.

That was yesterday. This is today.

That's my story. I'm sure my husband has his. We've been together now for 20 years.

Answer 7

No, It was not worth it. No it didn't last. I was happier at the time now that its over I'm worse. I now remember why I got married. So I didn't have to feel this way when something ended. Now every time I see him all those feelings come back. It is so not worth it.....

Answer 8

I was the mistress in an affair and often asked him why he would stray from his marriage. I am not proud of being in that situation by the way ..... i fell in love with him .... then woke up.
he just stated he was not the monogamous type but it was expected of him. family, career etc....
basically his answer boils down to because he could.
not intending to be silly or callous.
just an honest answer from someone who heard it straight from the horses mouth so to speak

Answer 9

No, not worth it. Even though my marriage was pretty much over, I still felt really bad about myself. I lowered myself to that level, and that made me feel horrible. Anyway, most women who look outside of the marriage for this affection are either, missing it at home, suffering from depression or other mental issues, or just plain selfish. Goodluck.

Answer 10

LOOSEN UP...... I HAVE NEVER HAD A AFFAIR BUT I CAN STILL TELL U THAT IT IS NOT WORTH LOOSING YOUR HUSBAND OVER... REMEMBER TILL DEATH DO US PART....