2006-10-08 15:54:32 · 15 answers · asked by lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah, welcome to real life. The butterfly in the stomach phase doesn't last forever. That's a part of life. You grow together, you become best friends, you love each other just as much but in a different way than you used to.
2006-10-08 15:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by Writer of Truth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what! things change. Love deepens if nurtured, but that mushy high feeling does not last if you don't work at it. It is possible to keep the fire burning, but if it has petered out it could be your fault as much as his. You can re-kindle it though I would reccommend you do so. Starting over with someone new may be exciting ...for about 1-2 years but if you do the same as you did in the 15 year one, you'll just end up in the same boat (but be older and none the wiser).
2006-10-08 16:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can happen. You've been together a long time and sometimes things get stale. Why don't you try spicing things up and getting back to communicating. You probably got stuck in a rutt. both of you for that matter.
If your feeling that way bet he is too. Maybe you two can sit down and have a good talk about each other and how you can correct things that have gone south.
Its worth a shot right. better than just leaving it at I don't have the same feelings anymore.
Good luck
2006-10-08 18:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People grow apart even after a few yrs.Feelings change & most of all people change.I have only been married 2yrs & know that much.Think of this,would you be happier being by yourself after 15yrs?If you think you would maybe u should seperate.If not maybe you should try to get the lost love back.Your feelings will probably never be the same,but that does'nt mean you can't find new ones.You both have to work on it.Ask yourself waht made you 2 fall in love in the first place?How will we get that back?If you honestly can't answer it maybe it really is gone.I hope all works out well for you.
2006-10-08 16:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And, what's your question? Feelings don't "remain the same." They either deepen for the person you're with or you grow apart. It sounds like you've moved away from your spouse emotionally. You can talk to your spouse and go get counseling or get counseling alone. At some point you'll have to make a decision - do you still want to be there or not? If not, do your spouse and yourself a favor and deal with the pain of moving on, but don't stay and live a lie. You'll only be hurting the both of you.
2006-10-08 16:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married 14 1/2 years and I can tell you that the "feelings" are not the same. As in, hot and steamy. But the best friend part seems to take over and you just live comfortably together. Although, some people just can't make it work but think and try real hard before you call it quits.
2006-10-08 16:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by motheroftwo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell your spouse how you feel. Communication is the best way to solve your problem. You may just have some marriage blues that will pass or maybe your really done. But either way your spouse deserves the truth. Don't stay just to make someone else happy but give it everything you can. Try to get counseling together and seperately. Talk it out!
2006-10-08 16:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by Natural Salt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its normal that feelings change, you become more like friends and there is less of the passion and fire that brought you together. I think its unrealistic to think you could feel like that about the same person for years and years. Some couples do but I think its quite common not to. I guess you have to decide if you are content in your marriage and with you life and if not, what are the alternatives? Is it worth it?
2006-10-08 15:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by DaisynSam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey life is a constant change if you don't seem to have that loving feeling as you say just think about the fact of all the things you to have shared together laughs good times and the bad. i don't know about you but i don't think i could just give up 15 year of time with some one who still loves me cause i have lost the feeling temporarily. stick with it love him as long as he loves you.
2006-10-08 16:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by sucker4chicks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IWots forever means to you? Its really hard to keep up. I definitely understand your situation. Its every day the-ts wot meters at list to me.Its really helpful to find some kind of fun parts of your personalty, and gave some time to don go so deep about 15 NUMBERS
2006-10-08 16:06:17 · answer #10 · answered by SANDRA F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋