My parents hate my boyfriend but i love him and i want to marry him what do i do?

Question

I turn 18 next month and i wanna get married help me!!!

Answer 1

First of all, you are so young! Why would you want to get married at that age, unless you are pregnant...
Now, why they hate him..because he is (in eyes of your parents) ruining your LIFE! There are so many things you can do beside clean someones underwear, cook food, clean and having kids.
I bet your parents (like every normal parent) have imagined bright future for you...having a college degree, getting a good job, have a career, live your life as the way you want it... once you get married the life is over! It is not YOU anymore it's US...You are going to watch thing on TV that he likes, you will eat food that he likes, you will dress the way he wants you, you'll visit friends which he picks for you...He might not say anything but he;ll show you what he does and does not like....You being so young tells me that you might not be strong and independent yet and even worse things can happen, but I sincerely hope that you know what you do...
And, remember people who marry very young are most likely to get divorced...Now, why would you like to be 21 and already divorced with two kids???
Think, and believe me, your PARENTS are the only people in this WORLD who wish you all the best and who love you the most.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

I've been once to your age before..

Let me tell you a story. I had a boyfriend when I was 17 years old and my BF is 27 years old. My parents really hate him for some reason which is I dont know why. I was in college that time, I keep fighting for my rights that I am the one who need to choose whom I will love, and whom I will marry. I want to get married also that time, but in my mind, theres always a question or a doubt like " Am I ready for the long term commitment?
My relationship with him continue until I graduated college and got a job, we still see each other..But time comes I was offered a job to work abroad and we separated, thats the time I realize that I dont really loved him..

Now I am married to another guy, which I just dated for only 1 year, and now Im happy more happier than before..If I did not listen to my parents, maybe my life is so miserable because I didnt finish my college nor him, he does not have a descent job.

Parents usually knows what is best for you, and us being a kids never experience what they had before, will think they are just ruining our lovelife... Sometimes we do need to listen to them and wait for the right time..

Im 25 now, and married to a wonderful guy which I didnt expect that it will happen.

Theres a lot of responsibility in marriage.not.if you feel you are ready to take it no matter what will be the consequences.. go ahead..

Marriage is not only because you love the person and you want to be with him forever.. you need to be financially, emotionally stable..I just realized this when I got married and have kids.. but before I never think that way.

Give yourself a time.. Enjoy your youth..Make yourself busy.. the feeling of "wants to get married will goes away...." Its just natural for a teenager like you.. When you passed that age and you become 24, your vision in life will change..

It will not be the end of the world if you do not marry him now...

Answer 3

It's OK to get married if you LOVE somebody ,not to spite your parents! Think about this good and well ! 18 is a little to young to get married . Why don't you live together for a while and get to know each other better and see that you two can SUPPORT each other without any outside help.Getting married is a Big step!!! Live a little have a good job and save some money before you jump into this big live altering decision!!!
talk to your parents and ask them why they don't like him so much .

Answer 4

Let's put it this way -- your parents have invested all their care and feelings and protective ability into raising you to this age and through your HS years ---

AND now ...

They 'FEEL" that something is NOT QUITE RIGHT about your choice of boyfriend, and are making it known to you that they do NOT like this situation ....

BUT ... being a teenager, and thinking you know everything, and with HORMONES raging, you STILL insist on dating, (and to the HORROR of your parents) -- even you are THINKING about marriage to the boyfriend ////

And you don't know what to do?

HERE is the thoughts of a SINGLE PARENT who was LONG TERM Single Parent, with a DEADBEAT Dad, and NOW am a Empty-Nester:

YOUR Parents want you to SLOW DOWN, take it a bit easier, and LEARN more about the guy BEFORE you get so serious that you are either living with him (horror enough), but in reality,

HOW MUCH DO YOU KNOW about the Challenges and Responsibilities of Marriage?

Are you READY to SHOULDER the FULL burden of Adulthood -- the Medical/Health Insurance needs, the Medical co-pays and deductibles, the cost of medications and routine health care, the grocery bills, the utilities costs, the cost of renting the apartment/home, the cost of furnishing that place so you can live comfortably ... etc etc etc of bills that come in

BALANCED against the INCOME you both will need to pay those bills ....

BALANCED against the STRESS of not having enough income to meet the bills, and the emotional impact of that stress of having to SHARE the limited living space with someone else who may or may not have the SAME MORAL Values you have gained from living with your parents ....

OR the stress of inequality of educational goals/achievements ....

OR any thing else that makes your parents uncomfortable ...

THEN ... SLOW It down a LOT YOUNG LADY -- and WAIT -- and LISTEN to the parents who are ONLY Concerned about what is BEST for you and have raised you to this stage in your life.

Answer 5

Marriage is something that you should really make sure you are ready for as it'll only get harder for you if you have a child with him, etc. I do wish you all the best however, just keep that in mind as the divorce rates go higher every year.
Find out why your parents dislike him. Maybe it's a valid reason. I know that it feels like parents sometimes just do things to annoy and aggravate us but with such a big decision ahead, you may want to hear what they have to say.
Good Luck!

Answer 6

Why do your parents hate him? Perhaps you should think about that, since your parents love you and want the best for you. On the other hand, when you're 18 you can do what you want. If you get married, I guarantee you'll be sorry you did!

Answer 7

Turn 18, then live together for at least 2 years. Then marry him if you still want to.

Answer 8

18 is too young to be getting married. how old is your boyfriend? and do you understand why your parents hate him? what about his parents or family, what do they think? however, it's your life, the final decision is yours to make. if things don't work out, you can always get a divorce! (unless your beliefs prohibit you from getting a divorce, in which case you should take more time to think about this)

Answer 9

It is amazing what we think at 18. You are soooo young if it is true love there is no reason to rush into it. Get to know each other as adults and wait a year, go to college and figure out what you want in life. Life changes alot between 18-21. good luck

Answer 10

You're too young to make any sort of decision like this. Wait a few years (at least 2) If he loves you, he will wait and possibly show your parents how how much you both care for each other.
On the other hand, we are only hearing one side of this story. Why do your parents not like him? Is he a dead beat? Is he a druggie? Is he uneducated and unemployed? Often times parents know their children better than they know themselves, and chances are, your parents only want the best for you.