what r the signs when u stop loving your spouse?

Answer 1

you mumble that you hate him under your breath. you look forward to the days when you will be without him. you make plans in your future that simply do not involve him.

Answer 2

Well, it depends on what you mean by "stop loving your spouse". If you mean that the romantic feelings (i.e. the honeymoon) have ended, that's one thing; but if you mean that you can't stand the sight of him/her, that's another. The thing is, ALL married couples go through both of those at some point(s) in their marriage. They are not a marriage ender, nor should they be. There will be days in your marriage where you don't even want to be in the same room with your spouse. It's understandable. Think of it this way: If you were locked up in a room with someone, anyone, for a long period of time, you'd grow tired of seeing that person. But if you were released and could get away and then come back and see that person, your feelings would change. The same is true for a marriage. Now am I saying you should split and go away for a while? Only in extreme cases. But find things that you and your spouse do separately. That will give you a break from each other.

As for the romantic part, a fading or even almost complete dropping off of that is normal and should be expected. Romantic love is not ENDURING LOVE. It's what happens after the romantic love is gone that proves whether your love is genuine or if it is a fake. Yes, it is romantic to have a spouse to go to bed with every night and make love to every now and then. It is not romantic when that spouse gets sick and throws up all over the bed and you clean it up and take care of her/him. But that is a showing of enduring love. When my ex boyfriend and I were dating, we also happened to work together and we would ride to work together. One night, he was sick and I knew he was going to call in the next morning. Yet he got up out of a sick bed and came to my house at 4 a.m. or so just to give me a ride to work because he knew I didn't have any other way. That, to me, screamed "I LOVE YOU" way louder than any flower or romantic gesture. It was not in any way romantic in his experience, but he did it because he loved me.

Yes, all married couples lose the romance to some extent but that doesn't mean they don't love each other. It just means that the love has grown deeper.

One other thing to add is that when the romance drops, some people start looking around for other people to be with. THAT IS A BAD IDEA. Not only does it hurt your spouse but it also says something about you. It SCREAMS that you and your "love" were a big, fat FAKE to begin with. Would you really want to say that sort of thing about yourself?

My advice is this: If you are having trouble, seek counseling. Don't just assume that you don't love each other and throw up your hands and say, "Well, that's it. It's over." Because it isn't and it never will be.

Answer 3

Love is a choice. Maybe you should stop looking for signs that you have stopped loving him and instead choose to keep loving him. Marriage takes work and so many people call things quits just to start the same song and dance with someone else. Why trade apples for oranges? You may find out later down the road that you actually like apples better ( or that the orange is rotten).

Answer 4

Lack of respect for one another.Thinking about other people. Short with your spouse. Not wanting to spend time with them.
All these are red flags and must be addressed.
I think everyone stops loving their spouse at times in their marriage - that is when we must work harder to stay in tune with our marriage and make the needed changes to once again feel the closeness.

Answer 5

Why should you be stop loving your spouse? Is there a third party involved that cause you to think that way. Is some guy in your office sweet-talking you and you starts comparing him with your husband. Is he showing more love to you than your husband. Or your husband is getting into your nerves for not helping you in the house chores, bringing you dancing, clubbings, restraining you from going out etc.
You should try to be more open to him and try to work things out with him. Speaks to him and try to understand each other's needs and demands. You may have misundersood him or not giving him a chance to explain his difficulties etc. Try to compromise and work out a solution. There is nothing more difficult than losing someone forever and you have to regret it for life. Remember the love you have showered each other and what makes him propose to you in the first case and how you accepted his proposal.

Answer 6

When all u wish if that they were gone, when u'd rather be doing anything else then be even near them...when all u think about is being with out them and could care less if they cheated on u , because it would finally give u , your out.. When u dont care if u stomp on their heart, or care if your family is torn apart.. when u realize that you took vows yet dont care about the vows that you took, and that u have no morals or values and so ur just going to break the promises that u made to that spouse..

Answer 7

That is a question you don't have to ask. You should already know if you love your spouse or not. Do you get excited when he returns home from work? If he were to die or get seriously hurt today would you care? If he didn't bother to come home for a few days would you care?

Watch Dr Phil

Answer 8

If youre asking yourself that question its probably a bad sign already. I would think that one of the signs is when everything he says and does gets on your last nerve or if when he gets home from work or from being away for awhile you get upset instead of happy to see him. Hope this helps a little, good luck!!

Answer 9

When you stop loving your spouse, you will stop showing affection to him. Love is action, and feelings follow the actions.

Answer 10

Under your breath you say "I hate you". You do whatever you can to not be home when he is home. If you are there, you stay away from him. When he talks, you don't listen anymore, just nod your head. You can't bare his touch anymore or his kisses. You keep thinking about the day when you will no longer have to be with him and your thoughts are happy thinking about it.

Answer 11

When you:

- no longer want him to touch you
- break down in communication
- don't desire to spend time with him
- dread him coming home from work
- become more distant
- thoughts wander to being single / or with another
- starting fights
- unhappy

Those are a few at least