If you'll recall my wife admitted to the cheating in an e-mail sent to the craigslist address. Basically I'm faced with 2 major issues, past infidelity and current attempted infidelity. I'm going to confront, I discovered all this on the 5th. I decided to wait a few days to cool off and also think things over. When I present her with the e-mails, her turning the tables will be irrellevant,since she says I pried into her private e-mail. If she says it was all just made up to spice things up, should that matter? Should I have a counselor appointment already set up? this sucks...
2006-10-08 15:20:12 · 15 answers · asked by Gabe R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think your time is up with her cause she cheated on you and if she really loved you she would have never cheated.
2006-10-08 15:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't really matter what she says. She lied, She cheated. She hid things from you. "Spicing things up" is BS- you don't use other people on the internet to "help" your marriage. If she's lied about all this, whatever she says is probably more BS
Forget a counselor- get a lawyer ready. And watch your bank accounts. You don't know how many OTHER yahoo or hotmail email addresses she has, do you?
2006-10-08 15:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen. If she wanted to spice things up. Dont you think YOU would be involved? She would not be online trying to hook up with other men. Sometimes women stray because they are lacking something in their already established relationship.
You went in her email b/c she gave you reason to. Dont listen to anyone who tells you otherwise. Its her karma. Shes proven she cant be trusted.
Im not saying to blame yourself, shes just being selfish and avoiding conflict. the right thing to do would be for her to discuss these things with you. NOT go out and have an affair.
It seems shes not ready to be committed she did it once and is trying to do it again. You should understand that life is not too long. SOmeone could die at 80yrs old and their love ones would still be wishing for their presence.
With that I say try counseling. But Im more in favor of you leaving her and finding someone who will appreciate you. Shes putting your health at risk you know? STDs HIV-AIDS. You dont need that in your life. You deserve better. Stop wastign your Love, Time and Energy.
2006-10-09 07:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by Tian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should reflect on what may be the problem. Ask her to tell you why she feels she needs to cheat? Is there a problem in your marriage that you both can work on? Does she feel something lacking? Do you? If she is just cheating because she is promiscuous I doubt that she will recover. If this is the case you need to absolve the marriage and find someone who respects you, and you can trust.
2006-10-08 15:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i wish i could give some fantastic advice. but i can't b/c what you are going thru is horrible. i think if you really love her and you honestly believe she really loves you then everything will work out. but counselling would help a great deal and to already have something set up would show that you mean business. i'm really sorry. i'm going through kind of the same thing except he won't admit it (i've seen them together) i don't know which would be worse.
2006-10-08 15:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by simple1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry man. Yeah it would be best to have the paper in hand if necessary, but the truth is that she'll try to weasel it around one way or the other, whether you have them or don't. Consider it a character litmus test- if she tries to turn it around on you, is that the type of woman you want for your wife anyway? I would get the appointment set up, in case she wants to try and reconcile- but I doubt it.
2006-10-08 15:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wait to cool off, let her see that you are ticked off and hurt. As for the person that said why go searching for something that would hurt you...well if you have a gut feeling, go with your gut.
You could have continued on blindly as she continued to cheat with the threat of passing on a sexually transmitted disease.
Stick to your guns and don't let her weasel out.
2006-10-08 15:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by zzstephaniez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bugger the counselling and so what if you read her emails, get some balls and confront her lying tarty a$$,do you really think she has made that up to spice things up , get a backbone mate and a life!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-08 15:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, im single and haven't been married ...
but my point of view, you have to talk things over w/ her.. and if the marriage can't be saved .. infidelity (this word really sucks)...
let legal matters take place.. you have proof..
2006-10-08 15:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by yen yen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront her she may think she is a big boss but it does not mean u should be scared just tell her and if she gets angry answer her by saying what does this mean, be sensitive otherwise go talkt our lawyer.
2006-10-08 15:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by soccermolajt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but dont go crazy and scream her out of the room be a little calm
2006-10-08 15:23:55 · answer #11 · answered by who 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋