o.k. so far everyone says to confront. we've been married 20 years and have 2 kids. I'm inclined to confront and ask for counseling. I'm afraid what it could do to my kids. Even though it's going to be a rough road. Does this seem realistic or practical?
2006-10-08 15:03:26 · 9 answers · asked by Gabe R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
man i told u to choke slam that lady i know what she did to u regarding that email. if u stay with her u got to let everything go and forgive her for everything she did. if u can handle that with counseling then everything should be OK. if u cant trust her then let her go. continue to be the best father u can to your kids. what kid want to grow up in a House with there mom and dad going at it all day everyday.
2006-10-08 15:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said she admitted to cheating? Did she admit it to the kids, too? In any case, I would say definitely get counseling but do so in such a way that the kids aren't put in the middle of it all, like a tug-of-war. After all, this is their mom you're talking about. She's the woman they've loved and trusted all these years. So don't try to play things off so that she comes out looking bad and, by doing so, causing the kids to hate or even have ambiguous feelings toward her. The kids don't need that kind of turmoil and the more you can actually keep from them about the infidelity, the better off they'll be. I'm not saying that you have to lie to them, but what they don't know won't hurt them and what they might find out definitely will.
2006-10-08 15:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by The Illegal Broccoli Farmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're asking but if your wifehas admittted to cheating what is there to confront her about ? According to you she has already admitted, if you know and you are still there for what ever reason(s) then stay in the married and deal with it. There has to be a void in her life your marriage that you are not filling. I don't mean to sound insensitive but there is a reason for her cheating it doesn't mean that she loves you any less there is something missing ,ask me how I know? I have the greatest husband in the world but there is a void in my marriage , this is why I said what I said to you , there is something missing in the marriage and the relationship that makes her go searching for that something that she is missing at home, I can't tell you what is missing in your marriage but I can say that is why a partner strays sometimes.
2006-10-08 15:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by lesalesa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, there is always going to be that nagging doubt, even if you don't pay attention to it. You will feel it. Its possible to go on, but your relationship will never be the same. I wouldn't even let the kids hear or know anything about it. They say people change, but I have yet to witness anyone changing even after years of "giving chances". The choice is yours, but be careful because some people get the idea that they "got away with it" when they are "forgiven".
2006-10-08 15:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would not extremely count selection what she says. She lied, She cheated. She concealed issues from you. "Spicing issues up" is BS- you do not use human beings on the internet to "help" your marriage. If she's lied approximately all this, in spite of she says is probably extra BS forget a counselor- get a attorney waiting. And watch your financial company bills. you do not understand what share different yahoo or hotmail e mail addresses she has, do you?
2016-11-27 01:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by chafton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok - you need to find out what the problem is - was she ready for marriage? does she feel trapped or want more romance? are you honestly doing everything in your power to make her happy - your number 1 priority - if you are - then either the problem is with her , or you should ask her if there is any anything that she feels is lacking in the relationship or that she needs more of....she must have been looking for something! find out what it is - and give it to her - you are the best man for the job really - a fling is not going to solve the problem...just listen to her needs - and hopefully she still loves you and wants to resolve it.
2006-10-08 15:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she admitted to cheating, why confront her. I mean did you catch her or did she tell you. Does she want to save the marriage or have her cake and eat it to?
2006-10-08 15:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by ?? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to confront her now becuase it will all blow up in your face eventually
you might as well deal with it now.
and also it will show her how commited to the relationship you are, and how badly you wish to save it.
try for councelling, there is always hope.
2006-10-08 15:07:20 · answer #8 · answered by disasterrrific 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did she admit it to you? I'm confused
2006-10-08 15:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by nananas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋