My ex b/f tried to make me doubt everything about myself. I no longer have a sense of humor, and find it very hard to communicate with people now. He was also very physically abusive. He put me through months of mental and physical abuse. I went to counselling and she told me that he tried to pass his pscychosis onto me. He didn't though. He pretended he was scitzo..Nothing he said was in normal context, and had to be deciphered. I have such a hard time talking to people now, because I keep hearing everything in 'his language'. Has anyone ever heard of this before, or have any advice??? Hes in prison now, and I'm still letting him control my life. Why is it so hard to see life with a clear head again. I get so frusterated because I know he screwed with my head intentionally, and still it haunts me!!!!HELP, please!!
2006-10-08 15:02:24 · 9 answers · asked by vaasam 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
People with opposite personalities can form strong bonds, almost addictions to each other. If one of these people does not have good intentions, the good person can get sucked into the evil side. The only way to break this addiction is to sever all ties. Don't look back. Get on with your life. Find a new mate, but don't forget the lesson learned with this jerk. Please, move on and stay away from trouble.
2006-10-08 16:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by bonacker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chill pill. He is where he belongs and no you need to find yourself. You problem is that you have not talked to real people in a long long time. It may sound simplistic, but try taking a few college classes, like arts or humanities. Something you can sink your teeth into. Start out on the same level as your classmates and chat with them on a regular basis. You need to get into a social setting where you feel comfortable and you feel that you have nothing to lose. Even a few beers at the local pub would be a big help. Talk to real people. Play JT Blocks and chat. Your anonymous so there is no pain involved in putting your foot in your mouth every now and then.
2006-10-08 15:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of the abusive relationship you endured. I do commend you for 'getting out' tough. He is your ex, and be proud of yourself for getting away.
Sadly, years of mental abuse does not go away once we leave a person. I strong suggest you to continue your counseling - do this for you, do this to get better. It will take time to heal, and you "owe that to yourself". You are a good person and in time will heal.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-08 15:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you said "ex" boyfriend and that is certainly a start. You would feel so much better if you talked to a professional. Break off any and all communication with this psycho.
2006-10-08 15:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to counseling and stay away from him! Hang the phone up if he calls and throw away any mail you recieve, or take it to the police and get a retraining order.
2006-10-08 15:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on the right track to getting better because you realize there is a problem. Only time will heal your wounds. Good luck!
2006-10-08 15:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by ?? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*That big lump of ****-That's the way he wants you to feel-He is going to control you the rest of your life if you allow it-Don't let him-Take control of your own life-Do you really want to go through all his B.S. again?A person that mentally and physichally abuses people means that they are not capable of taking charge of their own life.Ditch him and take a break so you can analize the situation.Is this guy going to bring you any happiness?I really doubt it.Do you want him to kill you?Think about it.*
2006-10-08 15:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him.He is dangerous for you?why you did'nt do this in the past?
2006-10-09 00:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by Alien 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave/break up/ dump him
2006-10-08 15:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Gervante S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋