Here's the deal....i want to move to Tennessee someday soon. I live in Kentucky. Friends and Family doesn't want me to because of distance and them not getting to see me as much. I want to live my life but, i don't want to make anyone upset in the process. What do i do? Any suggestions that i can get will be very helpful.
2006-10-08 15:02:08 · 13 answers · asked by BabyGirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you cannot please everybody with whatever you decide on to do, but you can atleast fulfill your dreams by going to tennesse, they will understand that if they are your real friends, its really normal that they will miss you, just tell them you will call them , write them, email them often and that you will not really be gone, explain to them this is your dream, you want to move, give yourself time, space and freedom, they will understand that, go do it
2006-10-08 15:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but you have to live for YOU... you cant live thru others, and they cant live thru you... I know the pain it can cause to have to move far from home.. texas to louisiana here, been here 18 yrs.... cried all the way here the day we left my parents drive way... and left whole family in tears too.... but, i did what i had to do... no regrets !!! try to explain to them, that this is something you have to do right now... a step towards your dreams and goals... a step into adult hood.... make each person you are leaving behind a small part of the plan... give each on an asignment... such as dad getting on the net and finding the best route to drive or plane ticket... mom gets to help you shop for just the right outfit for the first day of work, etc... see what I mean ?? reassure each person, by letting them help you make the transition, really it helps them more, they will deal and feel better about the whole idea of you being grown up enough or ready to leave.... and be on ur own... good luck and God bless
2006-10-08 15:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tennessee and Kentucky are not that far apart, but unless you have a compelling reason (like a career move), you need to consider that you might miss family and friends as much as they will miss you. Maybe the grass looks greener on the other side, but there is no place like home.
2006-10-08 15:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by DUM-DUM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your life. You have a right to live anywhere you want, just as they did. Tennessee and Kentucky are not that far away. You can visit and stay in touch by phone and email. If that's what you want, at least try it for awhile.
2006-10-08 15:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by lucy02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the long run, you have to do what's best for your life. you can stay in touch by telephone, email, picture mail, and text messaging. let your family know that it is important for you to live your own life and pursue your dreams. the geographic distance between you won't diminish your love for each other. just stay in touch and agree to visit on holidays. it will be a big adjustment for all of you... but eventually, they'll learn to accept it. and who knows, they may even join you in tennessee some day. i felt the same way when my parents "left me" and moved from michigan to georgia. but now, 7 years later, here i am in atlanta with them again.
2006-10-08 15:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by ŧťŠ4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand what you are going through. I recently moved to Ohio from Florida and my friends and family, especially my family, thought that I was moving because I wanted to be away from them. That is not the case at all. I want to do what I know is best for me. They understand now, but at first they were very upset. Hopefully your friends and family will understand that you are doing what you want to do, and that your intentions are not to hurt anyone. Good luck!
2006-10-08 15:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the main reason why you want to move away?? A career move?? that would definitely be a good reason!! Family has to come to grips with the fact that everyone has to grow up, and make adult decisions.
2006-10-08 15:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spread your wings and fly. You will never know what you are missing out on till you give it a shot. If you don't like it you can always come back. There is a reason you feel a calling to move there, time to go find out what it is.
2006-10-08 15:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by CLEMVIER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to live to make you happy. I am sure your visiting them from time to time will keep them happy. My family and I moved away from my family (not that far about 3 hours) and I think it was the best thing we've done. I enjoy being away, and visiting. I hope you fulfill your dreams!!
Best Wishes!!
2006-10-08 15:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always live ur life to the fullest. One day u will grow old and regret not doing what u wanted to do.
2006-10-08 15:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋