How can i make sure that i won't be taken advantage of. I know the laws in Egypt are different from the laws in the USA. How can i make sure that I'll come back safely to the US if HE decides to not let me return to the US? I trust him now, that he won't do anything to harm me, but one never knows of what one is capable of. Should i contact an immigration lawyer before i depart for Egypt? so that he doesn't try and keep my there in Egypt. what should i do? who can i contact?
2006-10-08 14:57:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have questions like these in your head, you're not ready to marry this guy. Sorry, but you need to either postpone the wedding or dump him.
2006-10-08 14:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I worry that you should be thinking this way. If you are really sure this man is the right person for you, such thoughts shouldn't even be entering your head.
If you have an American passport, then he can't keep you in Egypt against your will. Egypt is not a fundamentalist country and women are quite liberated. If you marry under Islamic law and he mistreats you, you have the right to divorce him. That's not hard, but you do need to understand how to do it - and as a foreigner alone, you may have trouble finding out the correct procedure.
So I do think you have to set your fears at rest BEFORE you get married. Perhaps have a holiday in Egypt with him first, so you can see him in his homeland, get to know his family etc. That way you can have more confidence about what you are getting into.
How long have you known this man? If it is less than a year or two, then ask yourself whether he is marrying you for you, or for an American passport.
2006-10-08 23:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go rent this movie and then decide. It's based on a true story. Don't think it DOESN'T happen. Once you're on foreign soil, you are at their mercy. If you completely trust this man and feel safe, why would you ask? I'm pointing this out because you seem a bit nervous, and it may be for good reason. Trust your instincts. Good luck and don't be foolishly blinded by love.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0102555/trailers-screenplay-E12288-10-2
PS: I've also heard rumors about young women being offered a large sum of money, etc. if they would go to different countries and marry a man just to bring him to America. If that is what you are thinking of, you better think twice.
2006-10-08 22:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by SweetPea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you get to Egypt, contact the American Consulate to let them know you're there. However, once you're married to an Egyptian citizen, you'll be subject to Egyptian customs and laws.
You may or may not be allowed to leave, and the American embassy will not interfere in your marriage to take you out of the country.
2006-10-08 22:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by Stuart 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how well you know your fiance or how long you have been seeing him, but if I were you, I would NOT go to Egypt to get married. If he wants to marry you then he needs to come to the US. I'm telling you, because I know, their way of life is different. You will be expected to do everything! There is no sharing of household responsiblities and such. You will end up being the maid of the house and expected to wait on him hand and foot. Don't believe me if you don't want to, but..... I know what I'm talking about.
2006-10-09 01:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend not doing that.. My mother who has now passed away was going to go outside of the U.S. to get married and so many things can go wrong. They can keep you there and not let u come back. If he wants to marry you they have visa's to come over here to U.S. to get married and then if they need to go back then they can and then u still have the leagal law over here in U.S. that u got married but are a citizen of the united states. once u get married in a different state u have the papers drawn there and then they can keep u from comming back. I posted a few sites I searched up. My guy is from another country too and I have learned alot and alot of people get screwed up going to another country for marriage and alot of people get into a trap. Stay safe and the best thing is to marry over here for your own safety too many things can go wrong. Stay safe and take care :)
2006-10-08 22:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why ask if you really know him, his family and friends. To ask a immigration lawyer to calm your fears is no way to start a relationship.
All I can say for opting to move and marry someone who lives overseas, is my wife married me and left her country, but she did not stay and went home. We are still great friends, but are no longer married.
You must consider your family and friends and it is not like moving across country, this is a major move. You must consider becoming home sick, missing foods, malls, things you normally would do and those you would do them with.
Your words, such as; taken advantage of, and will I get back safely. These are efforts to call out for help.
You might ask him to move here and live here for a year before you go off to his home to marry.
Do not marry out of loneliness or lust or for money, or status. Remember you will reap what you sow. Live for those who love you, not to please those who say they love you, but who you know have and will love you.
Words are only comforting if they are backed up with action or display of love, trust, and honesty. If you have loved and know how love should feel I do not understand why you are questioning your feelings now. Be honest with yourself and with your future husband on what these fears are based on. Consider the source of your anxiety and try to resolve it or them.
2006-10-08 22:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by 10critters 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know him? Why would you get married there? Is your family going? I think you should be careful. It doesn't seem like you are too sure about your fiance. You should suggest to get married here. Also watch "Not without my daughter" with Sally Fields. You'll find it pretty interesting.
2006-10-08 22:05:29 · answer #8 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever seen the movie with sally field not without my daughter/ I wouldn't go. Once your over there you have no rights as a woman your last on the totem pole. If he wants to be a jerk he can
Think really hard my dear. I would
and good luck
2006-10-09 01:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact immigration and ask who you need to speak with BTW-it doesn't sound like you really trust him. If you did, why would you be asking the question. You need to ask yourself if you can really trust and believe in him before you get married.
2006-10-08 22:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by heaven help me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a few egyptian men are seeking marriage from american women.
if anything stay in US and let him come here.
then decide.
the ones with no money have you go there.
the ones with money come here and offer to pay for marriage of convenience.
either way - you are too young to deal with any of the ramifications of either way.
where did you meet him?
how long have you known him?
is he here in US?
similar situation .... still trying to find out if he loves me or if this is a tactic to obtain green card.
good luck to you
2006-10-09 05:49:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋