Or do you find it hard to say "yes"?
If so, why?
2006-10-08 14:50:36 · 8 answers · asked by Fancy You 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I like YahooGuru2u, Cutie Pie and jess4sak's answers! I can't decide who is best!
2006-10-16 08:34:35 · update #1
Not anymore. I used to find it hard to say no, but I have learned that I hurt feelings less by saying no. If I say yes out of obligation and do not want to do it, I am unhappy and maybe do not do as good of a job, or if I do a good job I am on edge and when there is one little complaint, I explode. "How dare you! You are so ungrateful. I didn't want to help you in the first place, now you complain about the job I did!" Experience has taught me that a simple and honest "I don't have time to do that right now." or even better "No." saves friendships better than doing things I don't want to do half heartedly. I do not find it hard to say yes when I want to help, and since I can say no freely I have no problem in this area today. The good book says "Give with a glad heart". To me that means don't give and be grumpy about it. If I can't give gladly, everyone is better off if I just say no.
2006-10-12 03:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by YahooGuru2u 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger I used to sacrifice my feelings for other people. Now if I really can't do something or don't want to do it I say "no." I'm nice about it but I learned to say "no" so that I could have some time to myself. I work lots of hours and on my days off I deserve to do what I want to do. There are times of course that I'll do a favor for a friend but only if I'm really up for it or not too tired.
2006-10-08 21:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people who fear taking a stand in favor of their own true feelings are too concerned about what others will think about them. This is the mark of a person lacking in self-confidence.
Time will confirm the fact that one cannot please everyone by saying "yes" or "no" against their own wishes. Since you cannot control the feelings or the actions of other people, you will soon learn the only person you can control and please by whatever you decide to say- or do - is yourself!
2006-10-08 21:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I tell someone NO if its something that invloves getting into trouble or doing something only as a favor. If it doesn't seem right, I usually say NO but I wouldn't want to hurt someones feelings over something!
2006-10-08 22:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by To Remain Anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i think some people have difficulty in both of those words, yes and no... it is...
it also happens to me... i find out that it is hard to say "no" to some of people...but i do learn that if they can do it, so do i... even though I'm still in a process, but at least I'll learn to say "no" 'coz if you don't try to say it, some people might take an advantage of it... so learn girl...
2006-10-08 21:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Red_aS_blOoD 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i find it really hard to say NO to people even if i don't want to do it and i still say YES
its just because i don't want to hurt people by saying NO
2006-10-08 21:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by itz_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i find it hard to say no becuz every1 that asks me somethin is a friend or relative so its hard to say no to them
2006-10-08 21:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jakele K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes just too nice i guess
2006-10-08 21:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by ottowafi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋