I posted a question before about me and my first love reuniting after not seeing or talking to each other for 8 years. We were young when we were together, but nothing bad ever happened between us, we just drifted apart. I searched for him and when I finally found him, he was getting married in 5 days to a woman he had been with for 8 years and has a 2 year old daughter with. We talked on the phone for hours for 2 days, it was like we were never apart. We met up with each other 3 days before he was getting married and all those old feelings came back for both of us. We fell in love all over again. We kept talking on the phone for hours and saw each other 2 more times before the wedding day. He was married yesterday, but he called me a 1/2 hour before and told me that he didn't want to do it, but it was too late to back out and he couldn't stand to not see his daughter every day. We talked today and are still in love and want to be together. What do we do now? Is it too late now?
2006-10-08 14:39:56 · 18 answers · asked by mmlvzo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Again.. are u that dumb??? im not trying to be cruel but are u really that dumb?????? Is it too late? YES ITS TOO LATE.. he said i do, he made his choice, its too late, if he really loved u , and i mean really loved you and wasnt just infactuated with the thought of having someone that wants him ..(thats all it is).. then he would of stopped the wedding.. but he didnt.. its not to late till the I do's are said, but he went ahead with it.. YOUR NOW THE OTHER WOMAN.. UR THE HOMEWRECKING WHORE.. dont u realize that?????????????? HE MADE HIS CHOICE NOW BACK OFF..
2006-10-08 15:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's playing mind games,if he didn't want to get married he didn't have to,he can also be a father to the child without being with her mother which tells me that he's full of it if he really wanted to be with you and he was sincere then the wedding would have been called off simple as that so please don't lower your standards and become this mans woman on the side based on what he's told you so far so in my opinion yes it is to late because once he said I do he became another woman's husband by choice so do yourself a favor and walk away you deserve better the two of you just met up again but you can just call it bad timing.
2006-10-08 15:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being dishonest about your feelings to begin with was a big mistake. Now he is married and his new wife has started out with dishonesty. This is not fair to both of you. He had rights as a father and whether he got married or not would not have mattered cause he would still get to see her. All of this should have been thought about long before this happened. Put yourself in her shoes and realize that if he leaves her for you she is going to be very bitter and going to make life hell for both of you. If he has true feelings for you then he should have never married her.
2006-10-08 14:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by Karen S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's married. Anything the two of you do now would be wrong and would probably end up hurting everyone, including his daughter. If he really wanted to be with you then he could have found a way to get out of getting married.
2006-10-08 15:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately sweetheart if he really loved you...you'd be married to him. Move on. It will hurt but you will get over it. They say that there is someone out there for all of us. Don't be afraid to love again. Don't rush into another relationship. Get a feel for the guy do a extensive background check with him of course. Before letting your feelings out the cage. Good luck.
2006-10-08 14:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, how would you feel if the father of your child -whom you just got married to- left you to reunite with his childhood sweethart ?????
In my opinion, what you two feel for each other is not love but infatuation. You guys might have the feeling of recapturing your youth...
Most men just married or about to be, although willing to do it- experience "cold feet", that is to say fear of deep commitment, fear of losing their freedom. Rekindling the flame between you might just be the expression of these feelings.
I would ask him not to contact me for the next 6 months. He owe this to his wife and child. But then, if you both still feel you belong together, he should go ahead and get a divorce.
2006-10-08 16:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, its too late. He has a life now. If he loved you, he would have told his wife BEFORE he married her. He would have been able to see his daughter. Maybe not everyday, but he would have had lots of time with her. Move on before your heart is completely broken.
2006-10-08 18:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its too late, he is married, so move on. If you don't you will be half the cause of incredible pain for his wife, and in the long run for his child too.
I do not understand how you can even ask this question, he is MARRIED...so move on with your life. If you continue this it will be the most selfish act the both of you can commit.
2006-10-08 14:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young lady move on because if he still love or care for you you would be the one he would have married, some time thing or not meant to be .if you or looking for some one to love start with your self, and every thing El's will fall in place.
2006-10-08 14:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should have never married her. he could have worked somthing out with his child. its not too late but before you break up the marrige you both need to figure out if this is true love or just child hood stuff.
2006-10-08 14:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋