I think I'll ask again. How is a women supposed to deal with the feeling that a man who wants to engage in a relationship with her "wants" other women from time to time. Please help me with a realistic view on this. And... No... I am not ugly, I have great hygiene, exercise, have a rock hard body, a nice face, good personality and am sexual and sensual. Also, with all respect, I do not want to hear "don't take it personally". guys just lust for other women. The question is: How is she supposed to feel about it.?
2006-10-08 14:28:49 · 10 answers · asked by Serendipity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think a woman is going to feel how she is going to feel and she should recognize she can't change the man for having man behavior,
her feelings aren't wrong, but the man isn't wrong either, its the way a man has evolved - male of the species spread the seed, if you demand monogomy your man will hopefully give it to you but he is unable to change and not have feelings of lust for another woman
2006-10-08 14:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
let me give you the flip side ok....im happily married for over twenty years and this feminist crap really is for the birds. I dont do the hyphenated names, the Gloria Stinem have it all and the Hillary Clinton it takes a village.
Theres reasons other women are wanted. I get sick and tired of trying to figure out psychology from a stare or look, guessing about what I should do in a situation or say. For God sake I dont look at other men and say...does this make my butt look big ok.
Bottom line here. I, like lots of other men, enjoy short to the point, direct and non game playing communicaton. real simple stuff.
This is what I like and what I dont. This is what I will put up with and what I wont. Stop the games, stop the insinuations and subtext. Say and get what you want or go with someone else but dont expect your mine to be read or your man do think like you ...they dont. Havent you ever heard women are from mars and men are from venus.....
I enjoy a woman who talks acts and feels like a woman...no game playing, no bullshit and no muscles or facial hair....but at the same time I hate trying to guess about whats right...just tell me.
2006-10-08 15:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if a guy really cares about you, and not just your body, he will not be interested in going after anyone else. All I can say is that you must have attracted some real bozos, who are only, or at least primarily, interested in s-e-x. That is a mark of an immature mind, of either gender, someone who just uses another person to get their own rocks off, then disgards them like a used kleenex. There is more to life than just sex, and a real man, and a real woman for that matter, knows it.
2006-10-08 14:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by harridan5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't deal with it. You drop this disgusting, poor excuse, for a "Man" and find someone who will treat you with dignity, respect and honor.
This guy is sick and wallows in his own depravity.
No real man would ever tell you or want other women as well as you. Think about the STD factor. If humans were like animals, we wouldn't get STD's would we?
Do not engage and do not believe all men are this way. I am happily married and the thought of another woman's bodily fluids are as disgusting to me as someone spitting a luggie into my mouth. No, a majority of men are not like this.
I wish you well in your search. Drop him fast.
2006-10-08 14:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by Martin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I don't lust after other women and am not happily married but married I know I do not take it well when a guy hits on or drools over my wife and have said so to somes faces she is my wife and I will fight for her or any other woman in need of help, I do not think if a person ahas high moral value they would allow themselves to lust after another.
2006-10-08 14:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he wants a relationship w/u, that's fine, but if he wants "other women", tell him "HELL NO". U don't want him to bring home STDs & give them to u! I'd feel just the way u feel. used. The jerks who tell u "don't take it personally, it's a guy thing", r just that, jerks! Don't fall for that line of crap. Any man who wants a relationnship w/ a woman wouldn't want another woman period. He dosen't want a relationship, he wants a harem!! Find someone else- someone who wants to be with only u. Good Luck!
2006-10-08 14:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by louise b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just as you are "defensive" because it hurts. You just picked the wrong guy but don't want to let him go or you are trying to keep him and change him.
Take your "rock hard body" and get the stepping !
2006-10-08 14:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be offended. A girl like you should have a guy that is 100% satisfied with you, as I would be. No need for any other women.
2006-10-08 14:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have to ask yrself one question,do u want to put up with this attitude and just deal with it? II would be willing to bet I know the answer to that one.Good luck in any event! smiles
2006-10-08 16:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by matt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i joke about it with my wife openly. i tell her i don't feel guilty checking some girl out on the street. as long as i don't an an affair, she's fine with that.
2006-10-08 14:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by jim k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋