she just said that she needs time and i dont think we had the time to reajust im heartbroken and i dont think she will come back she said she loves me and its not my fult and i been a great husben i work out of to all the time and when been married for a year i told her i would quit and come home but i dont know
2006-10-08 14:23:13 · 7 answers · asked by David M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why?She's gone now.You should have never gotten married in the first place if you knew you wasn't going to be there.
2006-10-08 14:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My MAN! I am SO SORRY. Dude, there is really no way to describe the situation that is not horrible. I feel for you my man. I really do. This kind of thing happens WAY TOO OFTEN.
Dude, you already know what I am about to say, but I just want to reconfirm your thoughts so you won't question yourself, atleast, as much.
There is only 1 reason that she needs this time that she speaks of. I mean, come on! You guyus are apart during the week due to work...isn't that time apart? Of'course it is! She needs "time" to explore another relationship that she fhas gotten involved in. The new relationship is also why she is telling you that you feel like a friend. As we all know, new relationships can be exciting. They just kinda feel different. Well, in her twisted justifications for her miserable actions coupled with her own defense mechanisms for not wanting to accept what she really is, she has come up with this idea that you all are friends, which makes it easier for her to justify her "ways" with this other dude.
No one should tell you what to do, and I am definitely not going to. However, I might suggest holding on to your place of employment for a bit. I'm not saying that is the ultimate right thing to do. I am, more or less, suggesting that you not make any quick decisions about employment or anything else in your life. You are hurt; destroyed; upset; probably aren't eating or sleeping; might be drinking a bit; who knows? Also, I would suggest, if you haven't already, split your bank accounts immediately. If yall or going to live a seperate life, live with seperate moneys. It is fairly easy to do, and is rational. Finally, and this is the hardest thing of all, matter of fact, it is pretty much impossible...but, atleast try...do everything in your power to not beat yourself up and blame yourself for your wife leaving and cheating. I don't care what anyone says, cheating is not justified EVER.
STAY UP PLAYA
oh yeah, hit this up womensinfidelity.com
2006-10-08 22:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by Cing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No marriage can work when one partner works out of town. Especially newlyweds. You need time together to adjust to married life. To be with one another. If the both of you knew you would be working out of town all the time, it should have been discussed before marriage in detail and how you both were going to cope with it. Sounds like she got tired of being a married women all alone. So so sorry for you though, I know your hurting. I hope it will work out for you in the end.
2006-10-09 01:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so sad. If you worked out of town when you got married, it should not have been a surprise to her. Could she go out of town with you? Is her job one she could get in the town where you work? Good luck in working it out.
2006-10-08 21:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check your bank records and call an Attorney !
2006-10-08 21:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say Good-Bye.
2006-10-08 21:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by Candi S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call a lawer,,,,,then hit the fist strip bar there is
2006-10-08 21:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by amberharris20022000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋