My friend sees me and my husaband as a sham.?

Question

I love him very much, but she sees differently. There are times when it is not perfect,but you work through it. He cheated on me 3 years ago, but we went thru successful therapy. He is difficult at times, but still a lovable one. IS she right? WHy does she think she can see what I can't

Answer 1

Trust your own judgment, and instincts. If you're happy, don't worry about what she says. She might just be jealous of you. You are the only one that you need to please, and if your husband does that.....all is well! I might question how good a friend she is if she does it all the time. A friend SHOULD support you!

Answer 2

Doesn't matter what your friend thinks. YOu don't know whats going through her head maybe she's jelous you have someone maybe she wants you to split. or maybe she just doesnt' get your marriage. Only you can answer that and you have already said your happy and you love him hey nobody's perfect you work on your marriage if you love the man and he you. And its not any of her business.

Furthermore next time she goes on about your marriage. Politely but firmly say This is between me and my husband I love him and I appreciate if you drop the subject I will handle my own marriage and I appreciate it if you keep out of it. If she's a true friend she will want to see you happy not miserable and playing with your head to make you mixed up. Either she supports you or she should be quiet. Its not like he's hitting you or beating you up where she needs to be concerned for you.

And remember everyone has troubles part of life good for you you want to make it work. If its nothing dangerous he's doing to you then go for it. Everybody has spats.

And good luck on your marriage :-)

Answer 3

The question to ask yourself is, Is it good for you? If the answer is yes then its really not her business. Marriage is not easy and certainly has its moments. It also has its great moments and that is the purpose. Your friend , like most on this post, cannot believe that people change and adapt to mistakes. She's probably jealous that you were able to work through an adult situation that she is ill equipped to handle.

Answer 4

It is easy to pass judgment when one is not in the situation. As long as you and your husband are happy, that is all that matters. I am one of those who think once a cheater, always a cheater. But that is my own bias, and I know it. I wouldn't choose to stay with someone who cheated, but if you feel you have worked it out and are not worried about it anymore, tell her to butt out. After all, it is your life, you can do as you please.

Answer 5

He probably tried to hit on her or she knows something you don't. Try asking her why she feels this way. Maybe, she's having an affair with him herself. I've had a woman pretend to be my friend and then I found out she was screwing my husband and laughing with him about our friendship. She was totally wrong and I got her back by getting him back and then dumping him.

Answer 6

Be careful with your friend. It sounds to me that she can't forgive your husband for cheating on her friend. In addition she may be a little opinionated. You and your husband have been able to move on but she hasn't. I suggest that you stop discussing the sensitive issues about your husband and marriage with her. You can continue to be friends with her without discussing your marriage and husband with her.

Answer 7

she has her opinion and I am sure she cares about you but she does not live in the same world that you do...see both sides

Answer 8

does she see in your home?

Answer 9

that's her opinion. she is entitled, doesn't mean she is right. only you know.

Answer 10

Sometimes love is blind.