i feel sorry for him because of his illness, he knows im with someone else, i dont want him back its been over a yr and a half...... what can i say to help him
2006-10-08 14:15:52 · 22 answers · asked by chef spicey 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I understand that your not with him anymore and dont want him back. But, you guys can be good friends, be nice to him, call and say hi I understand your going threw a bad time and its ok. Remember being nice to him is going to make you feel good in side of yourself. Its hard when someone breaks up with someone over something just like (bipolar). If your kind and sweet to him and just say Im calling as a friend hes going to thank you so many times its not funny. Listen to your heart kiddo! Think about when you and him broke up remember how you felt. Now, put yourself in hes shoes. Kindness is a wonderful thing.
2006-10-08 15:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Michael R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you care about him ... and it sounds like you do ... then call him; but set some ground rules. You can still offer advice that's good for him without sacrificing where you are in life right now. Tell him you want to help and ask him to listen. Recommend a therapist; hop on Amazon and do a search for a good book on living with biploar and recommend that he explore it; encourage him to seek help. All of these gestures would show that you still care for him even though you don't want to take him back as a BF. Be prepared for it not to work considering the nature of the disease. However, your actions define you; your efforts make you the bigger person and the one who's in control of her thoughts and behaviors. Hope that helps.
2006-10-08 14:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by boobare2006 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try to help him but I think you are asking for trouble. You arent with him anymore and I am sure you have a reason for that.He probably has family and other friends he can talk to right now, so I would maybe send him an ecard to let him know you are sorry about his situation but don't let him get too close. He is very vulnerable right now. He could very easily mistake your care and concern for something more so just be careful...
2006-10-08 14:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by tonianne50 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get help on his own. It is sad that his girlfriend dumped him, but if he is not in treatment then he is probably very difficult to live with. If he is not willing to seek treatment, then there is nothing you can do for him.
If you think you can help him and it won't cause problems in your current relationship you can talk to him about his treatment options in your area. If you don't know how to help him, then don't answer him and eventually he will stop calling. That may sound mean, but he needs to take responsibility for his own life. That is the only way he will ever get better.
2006-10-08 14:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, im thinking you should replace your selection and discover somebody new at as quickly as. He looks in simple terms like certainly one of those individual who needs to apply you as a "secure practices internet" he needs to "bang" this different female and attempt to maintain you too so if issues together with his little bang pal dont artwork out he will have you ever to show to. Dont permit that take place, by way of fact it's going to bypass on for as long as you permit it.He wont replace. Dudes suck each and every so often so sweety if i've got been you identity tell him to in a well mannered way **** off. If he calls, save ignoring it (and delete the voice mails) or replace your selection. Sorry approximately your breakup although, you seem staggering, and its his loss.of course he's familiar with that although or he wouldnt be stringing you alongside :) wish issues get extra perfect :)
2016-11-27 01:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by ison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling sorry for someone is not a reason to put yourself in a bad position. I think you'd be wise to avoid talking with him. There's really nothing you can say that will help.
2006-10-08 14:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say I'm sorry you broke up with your girlfriend but I'm with someone else. Bipolar or not should have nothing to do with your feeling sorry for him. There's treatment for it.
2006-10-08 14:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
feling sorry for somebody is not a good reason to stay in contact with them. relationships based on pity do not work. (been there, tried that) chances are he's using the "im bipolar" excuse like its a crutch. perhaps if youre lucky he'll shoot himself or dive off an overpass. so what if he's a human being and should have people care about him. its not your job to be his crutch or give him pity love like you would give to a 3 legged dog.
also its bad for breeding. if you happen to give that guy pity sex you may end up with a bi-polar kid.
2006-10-08 14:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by Stand-up Philosopher 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it;s ok to chat ,you can let him know that you are happily in a relationship , but you would be happy on assisting him on any advise as a friend if he is in need of such advise. thats all you can do for him. i'm sure he;s just looking for a friend to help him get through this ordeal.
best of luck
2006-10-08 14:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you seriously want to open up that can of worms?
There was nothing you could say to him before to help...that is why you are not with him now...AND there is nothing you can say to him now that will help!
2006-10-08 14:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋