I went with this girl to homecoming and basically she is a loser and im not. i did it cuz i felt bad and didnt want to b shallow. All her friends really like me and stuff. All my friends really hate her allways diss her and i end up defending her. Today, her friends told me that she talsk **** behind my back and they have no idea why she hates me. Thye keep telling her that im the best she is ever going to get. By the way, she is fat and really stupid, academically, and street smartness wise. Im an honor student and captain of the school swim team. Ok, so then i have no idea why she hates me so much. All i ever did was being really nice to her. When she was cold i offered her my jacked and was really sweet, helped her with things, and now i get this. Im really confused. All her friends think that she is really retarded for doing this. WHat went wrong? Its not like i like her or anything, its just that i dont like ppl talkg **** about me.
2006-10-08 14:05:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I always stood up for her. Now im gonna join is with my friends and rip on her
2006-10-08 14:07:26 · update #1
She's suffering from low self-esteem. People who put somebody else down do it so they can try to raise themselves up. It doesn't work, but they still try. She doesn't hate you, she hates herself. She knows she's fat and stupid, and she feels bad, so she's trying to feel better. I would say keep being nice, you may be the one person she never forgets, because everyone else is mean to her. Be a hero, not a zero..... keep being a good guy.
2006-10-08 14:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a really caring person. I don't understand why you invited this girl out unless you actually liked her on some level, and by the way you sound so hurt perhaps you did like her. If she is so awful (as you describe her), then the reason she is acting this way now is for attention. She got a good looking boy to ask her out, something she probably never thought she would get, so instead of relishing it and enjoying being with you, she is acting as if she always has that sort of attention from good looking boys and can afford to throw it away without it bothering her...like everyone thinks she is so special now.
She will be very lonely if she keeps it up as she may never find another good looking and popular boy to like her again.
Rather than hearing everything second hand, why not go straight to her and tell her everything you have heard and let her set the record straight.
If she continues this sort of behaviour then move on..forget her..you've got to believe me when I say - it won't mean anything to you in three months time. Concentrate on finding someone who will appreciate you for who you are.
2006-10-08 14:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by anything_my_child 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't wanna be shallow so you went out with her out of pity? huh. you defend her from your friends, but you think she's a fat stupid girl. o....k? seriously, grow up. you can't expect other people to like you just because you're an honor student and in the varsity swim team. and you're compleatly not shallow. (yeah, right) you know what, if she's talking **** behind your back, let her. it's not gonna hurt you, it's only gonna hurt her. and you said you were really nice to her and all, but then you only did it out of pity and to prove that you were not shallow. i don't know if you've noticed, but you're really concieted and compleately self-centered. maybe that's why she likes to talk bad about you. or she realized what you really think of her and got hurt for that and decided to hurt you back.
i think you should apologize to her and talk to her about what she's been saying and why. work things out, and even though all these people say you're a great guy, i think you're still a little kid who needs real advice, not just complements. i'm sure you get those all the time. and have you ever thought about her "friends" just lying because they're jealous or something? but talk to her about it, and don't rip on her just to spite her. hope i helped.
2006-10-08 14:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by and so it begins... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 10:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're in the right. You've been nothing but kind to her and she treats you like garbage. Tell her that either she apologizes and tells you why she did this or it's totally over. Don't beat around the bush, but have manners and tact. There may be some underlying issues with her. You never know what she may have gone through or is going through. Just tell her how you feel in a polite manner.
2006-10-08 14:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by keyboard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't rip on her. Why lower yourself to that level? Sounds like you are a great guy. I think she is probably just saying these things because she knows it's too good to be true for you to like her. She is just dissing you so no one will feel sorry when it all goes wrong for her. It's a protection thing. Talk to HER about it. Not her friends. Not your friends.
2006-10-08 14:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by just browsin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever though about the fact that she really likes you, but knows about how your friends talk about her. She may be a smart girl and know that you would just spend your time defending her to your friends which could hurt you both.
2006-10-08 14:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by B N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tried being nice to her. She thinks she can make herself be cool by trying to put you down because she see's "niceness" as "weakness". Obviously this girl is an idiot and not worth your friendship. Just ignore her and don't waste your time.
2006-10-08 14:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww... U sound really nice. i can't believe she would do that.
thats very nice of you to take her to homecoming and stuff...
i think every one should go to homecoming.
idk what shes on but she's full of shizz if u r that nice to her and now she's talkin crap about u...
ignore her ...lol and don't even think about what she's sayin b/c ur nice and u sound awesome ... ok.
Have a good day!
2006-10-08 14:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by *411* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably upset BECAUSE you don't want to date her. She probably feels like your leading her on. And it sounds to me like you might be. Do you talk bad behind her back to your friends?
2006-10-08 14:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋