why is my husband so cheap?

Question

well as you know i am a house wife, i always wanted to be a house wife. but anyway my husband is the most cheapest man and selfish man in baltimore i can't even get a few dollars for tampons. he always say "i'll give you some money i'll give you some money' and when he gets paid i gets nada! he always got something else to do with his money and he leaves me out to dry. don't you guys thinks thats wrong? the agreement was i'll be the house wife take care the house and the baby and cook, and he brings in the bacon because our men is (suppose to work and support the family) i'm not a gold digger or a high maintence girl. i mean a family night at wendys is fine with me i have no problem with that. how am i suppose to deal with this selfishness? you guys i need to be rescued. lol

Answer 1

Some guys cost about a dime a dozen.

That's 12 cheap guys for only 10 cents.

Quality husbands, like me, are priceless!.

I guess my two exes didn't have enough money. (Whatever)

Answer 2

Well i totally understand how that goes! My mom just finalized her divorce my dad because of the same thing. My dad did stuff like that all the time to my mom and all his kids! my dad would leave 20 bucks in the money box for us for a whole week! If we needed anything we would have to spread it around for 5 people (4 kids and my mom)! This he did once a week. If we didn't use it he would keep it but if we used it he would ask for what and just replace it! Mind you he works for Health and Hospitals! He makes good money! It doesn't matter what he does for a living they can still be cheap! you might have to do something drastic to get his attention! I'm not sure what to do in this situation really! Think about it and talk to your husband about it! It might not be very pretty but he really shouldn't do that to you! You should be able to do things that need to be done in the house when he's not there! It sounds like Control and Domination in the worst way! I'm not a wife going through it, I was the child in the situation! So i kinda know how my mom felt those times where my father wouldn't buy her Panties and pads. One day My mom was in the bathroom Crying because she had no more Good underwear and she took her old torn up ones and balled them up so she could have something like a pad for her period! And i told myself i would never want to be with anyone who would make me go to that point! So be carefull if you stay in the relationship with him because your children will feel and see your pain even if you don't tell them!

Answer 3

This is a little odd. If you two own the house, he should be a little more concerned about the taxes. I have the feeling that either this is YOUR house, or you two have already negotiated the financial obligations of the home. For example, if your agreement is that he pays the mortgage and insurance and you are supposed to cover the taxes, then that's the way it is. Something just doesn't ring true about this question. Add: "why is it my sole responsibility when he clearly has the money?" Because if the house is in your name YOU are the owner-- with all the responsibilities and eventual BENEFITS. You could up and sell the house from under him and he'd see nothing. If you're going to expect to make him responsible for the major expenses of the house, you have to be willing to put him on the title. You can't define "yours vs mine" when it suits you and then change your tune when you need money. Put your husband on the deed/ mortgage or continue to pay your expenses yourself.

Answer 4

Wow, that is incredibly stingy! No woman should be forced to go without her necessities! You really have to get it through his head that some things just can't be cut out of the bill. But I understand your position. My dad is pretty frugal too, much like your husband. It's not something that changes easily, so be patient, don't get too angry over it, and just try to reason with him. Maybe you should also draw up a plan to show where your money goes each month. Like a certain percentage will go to food, some for gas money, some for bills and some for personal needs like clothes, going out to Wendy's for family night, and your tampons! Best of luck! :)

Answer 5

Start having more headaches, cramps, not feeling like making love etc....see if you continue to have money problems with him!! LOL, just joking.

Seriously though. Even though when God spoke to Adam he told him: You shaw eat by the sweat of your brow, and when God spoke to Eve, he said: You desire shall be to your husband. A housewife should never have a money problem, and her husband should never have a sex problem. Did you get that?! Did ja feel me on that one?!!! Or was I too deep??!!

You not having access to money for simple things such as tampons is a hot damn mess and your husband needs another man, who's handling his family the right way to chin check his ask! That's crazy. Why is there not a supply of money left in your home for you to go to when you need little things. I can see having to ask him for the couple hundred it takes to pay a utility bill, but him not leaving at least $100 in the house for emergency money is insane. He has control issues, and if at all possible you might want to consider re-entering the work force and show that fool you can handle things yourself since you have to beg his simple ask for tampon money!! Maybe he would prefer you bleed all over his ask in bed at night.....bet you wouldn't have to ask twice after that!

Answer 6

was this a shot gun wedding? Did you now know that he was cheap before you married him?

If it bothers you so much then I think you need to start making your own money and stop depending on other (regardless if hes you husband or not) for money to buy tampons!

Your not a child so you dont deserve to be treated like one, being a housewife is not what it cracked out to be so you need a job that comes with money and great benefits...cuz hubby aint cutting it.

Answer 7

So he wont give you money for tampons..........sleep on his side of the bed for afew days a month. I think tha tyou might need to get a job and have your own money. I sure hope that you have your own bank account if you do get work so your money is not mixed in with his. Yeah, he sounds cheap and nasty, sounds like he needs his @rse kicked up and down Baltimore afew hundred times. Failing all this, just leave him and get yourself a decent man that is loving and caring, they are out there.......somewhere.....I think.......lol....... You could always put a price on everything that you do like $20 for washing, $100 for ahem, well u know , $15 for cooked dinners, $5 for breakfast ect. roflol

Answer 8

Reading between the lines it seems what it is you're really looking for is a solution. Have a good chat with him and explain how his behaviour makes you feel. He may not even be aware of how much he is hurting you. Once he realises how much pain he's causing you he should change his habits. Good luck.

Answer 9

Cut up his favorite shirt and use THAT for tampons.
When he gets over his stroke, you two need to get together about money. You may not have a job but you damn well work and you should have at least 50% of the votes concerning the household budget.

Answer 10

Why is my husband so cheap?