I have already decided this is what I want but I jsut dont know how to tell him. I have already found an apartment and all that stuff so should I just say, "I want a divorce, I'm moving out on this day" and hand him the papers or is that really cold? Please help me!!!
2006-10-08 13:41:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just be honest, and matter-of-fact about it if you've made your mind up. Try not to be cruel, but just tell him. Sorry it didn't work out for the two of you.
2006-10-08 13:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the circumstances. Have the two of you talked about the possibility? Is he aware that things are just that bad between you? If so, then it sounds fine. But if this will come as a complete surprise to him, then it's wrong. At the very least, you sit down and explain to him why you want out of your marriage. Be as kind as possible and leave him some dignity. Also, make sure you are absolutely positive that your marriage is beyond repair.
If your husband is an abusive jerk, then I wouldn't even tell him. I'd just get all my stuff together and move while he's gone and have him served. You don't owe him any courtesy in that situation.
2006-10-08 20:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be cold. obviously you were in love at one point, so he deserves some courtesy. just tell him your heart is not in it and youve made up your mind. youre ready to move on.
To tell the truth you have been cold already. the fact that you went and had these papers drawn up with out consulting him, giving him a chance to change or make things right with you proves this.
I dont see why you are worrying about this now. You did not worry when you went through this whole process. You did not give details either. SO if your husband was an unloving, selfish, complete total *** to you, well what you have done is fine.
But if you are the one who just fell out of love, youre feeling like you want a change, maybe you found another man. What you have done is selfish and evil at its best.
2006-10-08 20:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by Tian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow.......are you really sure that you want a divorce. Why dont you just tell your husband that you are moving out and that you want to have a time of separation and give yourself 12 months of living alone before youmake things final. I'd really go the separation way first because you might just need some time and space to get your head together.
2006-10-08 20:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Linda 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to let him know that everything is ready. You need to sit down and talk to him about this. Everyone deserves to hear from their spouse before getting the papers served. You already have the arrangements made, so he will not be able to change your mind. He just needs to hear from you and be able to ask "Why?"
2006-10-08 20:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's pretty much how you say it. If you think it is "really cold" then perhaps you really don't want the divorce. Divorce isn't a walk in the park.
2006-10-08 20:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like pulling off a bandaid. Quickly. It will sting at first, but a lot better than dragging it out. Just don't be wishy-washy. If your mind is made up, fine. But if there is ANY chance. Then do everything to work it out.
2006-10-08 22:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well start off talking about the things bad and good of ur marriged then say it just isn't working out with us but i still want to be friends with u.
2006-10-08 20:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by Dezy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want the divorce and did you all do something to fix the marriage? If you are going to divorce him, do it properly. No need to be mean.
2006-10-09 21:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you already told BILLIONS of people world wide... Just tell him and the reasons why... The truth hurts sometimes but it is always the best route you can take... EFIL
2006-10-08 20:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋