im 13 and 160-165 im 57 and never been loved nor said i looked pretty i dont think i can be loved and advice?

Question

should io try to lose a few lbs dress different ... i wear bball shorts an a t-shirt thats to biug for me and tennishoes everyday i hang by my self cause everyone at school or a holes and all my friends are at highschool 1 grade bove me

Answer 1

yes u can be loved. if u dont liek how u look. find a dietician, go to the gym. make yourself fell good. you can not look to other people for you happiness

Answer 2

hmm tough question.... If you feel ugly you will appear ugly no matter how pretty you are. You may need a new hair style, new clothes style... I don't know, I cant see you. I was over weight and never had boyfriends as a young lady and I know it hurts. BUT you need to feel good about yourself and you need to like yourself before anyone else can have those feelings for you. You should talk to a friend.. someone you trust about this. If you cant find someone locally maybe join a team sport, or take swimming or dance lessons. This will give you access to people your age that have the same likes as you... so you already have things in common. Good Luck..

By the way... you are still young and have plenty of time to be loved... What ever you do ...Do not settle for just anyone, make sure he is the right guy for you. And sexually speaking.... do not go further than you want just to please a guy... you will regret it.

Answer 3

Bah. I'm 29, but I understand how you feel. I thought I was huge when I was in high school. I'm 5'9", 175 lbs (I weighed about 160 in high school), was a complete hippie/grunge girl (I'm dating myself) in high school, never wore makeup (still don't), and I have a wonderful husband who thinks I'm beautiful and loves me ridiculously. I also know that a couple of his friends think I'm pretty :-p

Don't worry about it...most (not all, but most) guys in high school date girls that they think will impress their friends...whatever the trend of the moment it. I never had a date in high school, but when I went to college, it was like another world. I couldn't believe it. If *you* like the way you are, don't change. You obviously have more mature friends who accept you and LIKE you for who you are. Do you want to have to put on an act the rest of your life? If you *want* to change something, go for it, but don't do it to impress other people. Worry about being happy with yourself...Things get MUCH better as you and the guys around you mature. Most guys don't really dig the stick-girls once they get out of the high school environment. Most guys like curves - they like to know the woman they're with IS a woman.
PS...I shot up a couple inches and lost about 15 pounds when I went through a growth spurt in high school, so, don't worry too much about your height/weight at this point. You're bound to grow a couple more inches; if you just maintain your current weight, you'll slim down naturally, even if you don't lose any weight.

Answer 4

Yes, you can be loved. I'm certain there are people in your life who love you, such as family & friends.
If you're unhappy with your weight or appearance, you can change that. If I may say so, your attitude seems self-defeating. That's what you really need to work on.
As far as romance, 13 is really too young to worry about that. I think it will come to you in time.
I hope I wasn't too hard on you. I know what a difficult age 13 is. I was there once.

Answer 5

There are a lot of superficial people who will judge people for unrealistic standards and that is sad.

I am 48 (actually 49 at midnight) and seeing it in my dating. But I have not lost hope or my belief that the really important people see people for the entire picture of who they are.

And i do not and I hope you do not want to be loved by someone who puts weight and looks as the criteria that they place for people to love.

What i can tell you, is that it is important to take care of yourself, by exercising and trying to eat pretty well. That just makes good sense. Continue to foster the friends that you have and know that you are lovable.

And most importantly, put love out into the universe. Give to the less fortunate, dontate time, give compliments to people on the street, love animals, respect old people, appreciate nature. With all the love that you offer out, it sort of boomerangs back at you and you will be a well just filling with the love that gets returned to you. Don't confuse love with the superficial attraction that immature people place on unrealistic standards that they set for beauty or perfection. They will never be happy or loved.

Your journey for happiness and love has to be created by yourself and set with your own terms. I think you are perfect in your own way.

Answer 6

You definitely can be loved! You are valuable just because you're a human being made and loved by God. If people don't love you, that's not necessarily anything wrong with you, it might very well be something wrong with their ways of judging people.

Dressing nicely, smiling, and being physically fit can add to anyone's self-esteem and to their attractiveness. Good posture, good hygiene and a little makeup will bring out the best in your appearance.

And, as tough as it is (I remember!), be patient for love. It will come in its own good time. Believe it or not, you are not the only one feeling this way. Even a lot of people who outwardly seem cool and confident feel this way, people of all ages. Better days are coming, my friend!

Answer 7

If you think you need to lose weight, go for it.But I think you are beautiful inside and out. You have a family that loves you. You don't need a boyfriend to feel loved or beautiful. I'm sorry you are alone. I'm your age and I'm alone too. Just hang in there,because things will get better. People will realize that girls like you and me are the best friends anyone could ever have.

Answer 8

it form of feels to me that he likes you, and you like him, so choose for it. do no longer pay attention to human beings telling you you're too youthful to have a courting. He additionally seems to love you--consistent with all which you have have been given suggested here, a minimum of--yet seems slightly shy. i'm a company believer that adult men should not matter directly to make the 1st pass each and every of the time, because of the fact it cuts down on the form of relationships that never come into being because of the fact the guy is basically too worried or uncertain to ask. it quite is totally ok for a woman to ask a guy, and that i think of that it quite is taken into consideration one of those specific component between you 2 which you're able to do it. indexed decrease than are some issues to make it pass smoother: Be direct: do no longer beat around the freakin' bush once you ask him. Say 'do you like me?'. do no longer provide him something to interperet, he could no longer get it. yet it truly is to no longer say you may basically walk as much as him and ask 'So, do you like me?'. Flirt slightly first, then ask. Do it in guy or woman, in case you may. I understand that it quite is confusing to do and confusing to get him far off from his pals, so in case you actual can no longer, use IM or chat. No digital mail, no telephone call, no texting, no webcam--those do no longer paintings nicely. permit him understand you like him first: He sounds in basic terms slightly shy while it includes relationships. in case you ask and he does not think of you like him, he could lie to circumvent embarassment (I even have...and it replaced right into a woman i myself enjoyed, too). So do no longer provide him any reason to think of otherwise. permit him understand! solid success. desire this all works out for you.

Answer 9

you're at a horrible age. it is very hard to be 13. everything is so awkward and you're still learning who you are. give yourself some time. just be yourself and find ways to enjoy yourself. if making changes will make you happy, then do it. but don't make changes searching for someone to love you. you have to love yourself. boys your age aren't capable of loving a girl in that romantic movie way anyhow.
I promise, things will get better. After 15, it will all be good.

Answer 10

You are 13, you don't need to date or love yet! You are way too young to even think about dating or know what love is!!! Chill out for about 3 years and then worry!

Answer 11

You're only 13. Too early to be in love anyway. Boys your age don't know what a girl is yet. As you get older, I'll bet you get even prettier.