im 16 years old and i met a guy who was 30. at first i thought this was sick at first but he grew on me. but then all of a sudden he kept harasing me to let him take photographs of me . and said they were not dirty as he wasent like that. at first i thought there was something fishy about it but was kind of scared of him.he took harmless photos of me just like playing sports. then about 2 weeks ago he asked if i could just wear a thong and a bra. i said no but he turned abit violent so i did it. and asked me to take some sexy shots. after taking these crude photos of me, i knew this was not for me and thought ill just cut contact with him. but he started phoning me asking me to finger myself down the phone to him and if i didint he would post the photos of me on his website. he then blackmailed me in to having sex with him. these last two weeks have been the worst time of my life. theres no way i can tell my family they will kill me. where am i suppsed to go from here
2006-10-08 13:29:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Tell a policeman, your school counselor, anybody in authority because not only did he violate and harm you, I guarantee he's doing it to other girls.
ALWAYS trust your gut. It won't trick you like your heart or mind. Girls somewhere learn they have to be nice and this sort of man will say or do anything it takes to get you to do what he wants you to do. Your gut instinct is there for a reason and it's better to be rude and unharmed than trusting and violated.
You also need counseling, because now you are prone to develop the inability to trust others, you might develop anxiety problems or depression. The sooner you get counseling, the better. Even if you don't feel like you've been harmed that badly, it's best to err on the safe side. Good luck.
2006-10-08 13:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your family is going to be far more supportive than you think, honey. You need to get this taken care of NOW. Yes, you HAVE been taken advantage of. Who cares about the pics at the moment. If you tell your family and get him now - the photos will be taken as evidence and will never see the internet.
As for being made to have sex with him...all the more reason to tell your family. Statutory rape. What if you don't tell them...he'll keep making you do it and you might end up pregnant...or worse. You've probably got a good head on those shoulders...use it. As an earlier answerer said - trust your gut. You family is a lot closer to you than this creep is. You don't have to let him take your life over like that.
So as you finish reading this...call for your mom and or dad, your guardian, whatever have you. Sit down with them, right this very minute, let everything this creep has done to you fill you up and let it out for mom and dad to hear. They WILL support you. They brought you into this world to love you - not for some a$$hole to use you. Tell them EVERYTHING and put this f.ukkr away. Stick to your guns and don't let anyone intimidate you into changing your story. Write down everything, every little detail - it'll be easier to recall that way. Go talk to them right NOW and call the police tonight. You'll be fine, honey. Be strong.
2006-10-08 21:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by simplycreative_2115 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all yes it is very scary. he did take advantage of you and you should go to the police. I know you said that your family would kill you, but you might be surprised. You need to stand up to this guy, and let him know that what he did was wrong. It's going to be hard but once you've done it you will be so proud, and relieved. you said that those 2 weeks were the worst in your life, well if you don't do something about it now it's just going to get worse and worse. you could make a plan, like start collecting evidence that he's black mailing you, or something. make sure you have proof and then go to the police. i'm sorry this happened to you, and i hope it all works out! please tell somebody before he does this to someone else! your in my prayers!
2006-10-08 20:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the photos for goodness sake. It's only bra and underwear. He CANNOT show the photos! Wake up! He's 30 and you're 16. HE WOULD GO TO JAIL! So, lose contact and don't fret over undies. In fact, you should tell your parents. Get it over with and out in the open. Life goes on and don't think this will be your only bad choice in life. Life is a lesson for us all. Shut this creep up and lock him up. Not only did he break the law but it is also RAPE. You are underage....he won't show the photos!
2006-10-08 20:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by shizzlechit 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to the police. I know you don't want to, you're embarrassed etc. Do it anyway.
They will help you and they will shut this guy down. Don't think you are the first girl he's done this to, nor will you be the last.
You are 16, a minor, and he has used you and abused you. That's bad enough, but the next girl may be only 6! Do it for yourself and do it for all the other girls you will help if this pervert is off the streets.
You need to find your power, girl! It is in there--- take it back!!!!
2006-10-08 22:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, You need to go to which ever parent you feel more comfortable with and tell them. I feel like you could be in danger. Your parents love you and they are not stupid-they know you are at the age where you will be experimenting with different things. You need to tell them now! You are in a very dangerous situation. They will be more concerned about the crime this guy has committed. He has committed a felony. Please, if you do this right now, its likely the police will be able to go to his house and get evidence and convict him. DON"T TALK TO HIM! This is only going to get worse. Call the police, now!
2006-10-08 20:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by fighting 40s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trap him. Photograph him doing you . He can go to jail. Just his DNA in you can send him to jail. But your parents will know. Or see if the cops will just have a talk with him. They will get the point across to leave you alone.
2006-10-08 20:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by us citizen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG i am so sorry this is happening to you. you HAVE to tell your family or the police. this is far more than just taking advantage of you. he obviously has the upper hand and control of you-you really need someone on your side to help you. this is criminal and he should be in jail. if you dont do something to stop him he is going to continue. i bet you are not the first girl he has done this to. he is so sick.
2006-10-08 20:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by tiare 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not talk to him again. If there is a problem after that, I would report him to the police. asap Let them know that he forced you into it.
2006-10-08 21:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by zoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin tell the police! this is sick disturbing and ILLEGAL!...this guy should be thrown in jail..i hope he rots in hell!
2006-10-08 21:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by sweety_pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋