I've been dating this guy for four and years and we were to be married. After living together for four years, I just recently found out he has been seeing several women at least 85% of our relationship. I am so hurt because I thought he was the one and I could trust him. I've bent over backwards forgiving all the ups and downs of our relationship. I am a happy homemaker and fell in the role of taking care of his kids when they visited, I have none, and helping his mom when she needed to go to the doctor. I've always said and thought that he was selfish; he proved my point. Don't get me wrong, I left him, but miss having someone in my life because I became accustomed to having a family, as we shared. My mom and cousin is very excithed that I left him. I have a very good fulltime job, my own place (apt.), college, and a part-time job, but some how, I still feel empty and sick to my stomach at times. How do I fulfill my life again, as a single woman? Can someone help?
2006-10-08 13:13:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've been a victim of this kind of thing.
It's not an easy situation to face or to overcome.
Time will take care of the hurt and the pain.
One day, and it may take a few years, he's going to look around and the only thought whirling around in his head will be the fact that you really are a great woman and he was a jerk for @ssing with your head and your heart.
It will happen.
The real question is this: HOW ARE YOU GOING TO REACT TOWARDS HIM WHEN HE COMES BACK INTO YOUR LIFE?
If I were you, I would be happy, ladylike, classy, and confident!
I would also be a woman of few words.
When he asks if you can start seeing each other again,
politely tell him 'NO...I've moved on with my life".
DO NOT say another word!
DO NOT get an attitude!
DO NOT argue with him!
DO NOT give him a piece of your mind!
DO NOT look back!
Be a woman of very few words and always remember this: NEVER GET INTO THE HABIT OF TAKING A SH*T AND STEPPING BACK IN IT!
2006-10-08 15:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are horrible that way. It sounds to me like you did the right thing in getting rid of him. There are plenty of men out there looking for a woman like you. Just be patient and you will have the life you want. Have fun now while your single.
2006-10-08 13:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i want to say congratulations you made a huge decision in leaving him ... i'm sorry he hurt you the way he did ...
second you need to time to heal the whole in your heart and the emptiness you feel ... its hard and it takes time, (i've been here) ... get yourself involved in things you like, maybe get a cat or a dog or some sort of pet to take care of ... this will help ... but go out and have fun with friends, make new ones and just try to be you again ... take care it will get better!!
2006-10-08 13:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really wondering if this guy was ever into you or the relationship. There are so many guys out there who are busy trying to "sex up" any woman who is willing. Congrats on moving on with your life; now you are free to find the man who is truly right for you.
2006-10-08 13:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by JEFFAVEGRL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you just need someone ot love that all. Enjoy your freedom and get good grades for the time being...it will come in time...you have a lot of love in your heart.
2006-10-08 13:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy,just go out and find another to love.That's all.Shame you don't live in the same city that i do,you sound really sweet.
2006-10-08 13:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a person need a brain to have thoughts... does that answer your question?
2006-10-08 13:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men think with their other head
2006-10-08 13:17:58 · answer #8 · answered by robb_carrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋