When his back is up against the wall he tends to come with dirty, vindictive things to say. So I found out that she's been talkin about me to him. Some things that only SHE would know, he repeated back to me...... do I confront her, him or both?!!! I'm ready to do some serious damage right now.......
2006-10-08 13:04:58 · 18 answers · asked by ~*~NY's Finest~*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes I would... she has violated your trust and with a man who has no sense and can't be trusted. Don't confide in this person ever again.
2006-10-08 13:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would he tell you these things? What's in it for him? Before making any decisions it's important to question his motives. The second thing to know is that when you are in a couple, you tend to tell your mate everything--regardless of relationships. You may not like that fact but it's normal. For most women, not all, sex trumps keeping a promise. Not because she's being two-faced but because being close with a sexual partner makes it seem like you can trust him. You bf has been just as betrayed as you feel you have. He's trying to play friends against each other--not cool! If you want to keep a secret, don't tell anyone. Going off is wasted energy. File this away for future reference and talk to your bf after you've calmed down. Everyone gets on our nerves sometimes, even our best friends...it doesn't mean anything to vent.
2006-10-08 13:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by devilmaycare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be glad you found out now, instead of after years and years of what you thought was a good friendship. imagine you never found out about all this, and she kept doing it years and years after you graduate, and everything... you're in your 20s and you find out this whole time, someone you thought was your best friend was saying you were sleeping around, and you're stupid when you actually get to know who you really are, and that you dont know what your talking about at all, but all the while, its "hey, you want to go see a movie this weekend?" when its just the two of you having girl talk.
its just how some peopole are. if you comfront her, it will only bring you more hardship, she will deny it, and the boyfriend will probably be mad at you for spilling the beans, and accusing her of belittling you. theres not really a whole lot you can do to make her change, but now that you know, you certainly do have every right not to talk to her, demand anything back that she borrowed from you.
the moment you do decide to do anything physical, its a lawsuit, so be carefull.
2006-10-08 13:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by ASLotaku 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't lower yourself to their level. Just walk away from them with no explanation and find yourself a newe best friend.
Doing some serious damage would only let them know that they got to you and could also get you an assault charge.
I don't believe in making a spectacle of myself and I don't believe in giving people a second chance to dog me. Get on with your life and find a new friend. Keep your head held high and be proud of yourself, causing damage will not give you anything to be proud of.
2006-10-08 13:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very smart person once said, "never tell anyone, anything, that you are not willing for all to know." Some things that only she knows? Get a new best friend and forget about about her and him. All people talk and all people claim not to. Ain't that the funniest truth?
2006-10-08 13:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not really your friends then. Your boyfriend is supposed to be your best friend. Someone you can talk to and share your feelings with. Not your friend sharing your secrets to him. Confront both and get to the bottom of this.
2006-10-08 13:37:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 01:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell yeah confront their asses.U shouldn't let no one talk **** about u especially if their suppose 2 be your best friend.This is what u should do beat your so called best friend's *** and get your brother,male relative,or a male that's close 2 u to beat her boyfriend's ***.
2006-10-08 13:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by bootylicious 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Confronting them will nly end up in denial. One of them or both of them will deny..deny..deny! So you should just cut those people out of your life.I was in the same situation....I did not cut them out of my life and confronted them...they denied it and i believed them.I was the fool cuz it backfired dont make this mistake!
2006-10-08 13:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by nikki nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tis a wise man who keeps his own counsel. Keep your friends close, and your enemy's even closer. Let none know your thoughts. Knowledge is power, but only if your the only one who knows.
2006-10-08 13:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋