My ex and I broke up 3 months ago, I want him more so badly. He tells me he wants to be friends but its so hard. We were together for 7 years and we have 2 young girls together. I have a hard time to eat, sleep, and concentrate at work. My stomach is always in knots, and every morning when I wake up Iam sick. What should I do?
2006-10-08 12:26:37 · 15 answers · asked by pcummings22000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's so sad, I feel bad for you. Especially since you have kids with him too. It makes it hard to walk away, and go on with your life. If he still wants to be friends, what went wrong ? If he doesn't want you, it'll take time, but you'll find someone else. Good luck ~~~
2006-10-08 12:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is my advice life is short, you can dwell on the past 7 years and be miserable for a period of time that is normal but then sweetie you have to move on. My sister was with a man for 26 years and there were problems all along. Now my sister is in her late 40's and is having a hard time finding a good man becasue of the years she was with her X. Let this be a blessing for you. It's only been 7 years he could of robbed you your whole life. Find happiness somewhere else it will happen. If he comes back now hunny trust me there will be problems the hurt will be there and so will the doubt. Take this as an oppurtunity to live your life and be 100% completely happy. don't settle for being on edge or always worrying about what might happen next. You do get over the pain and you will find your happiness and you'll be greatful for the seperation when you do because you probably knew all along that you had your doubts. Don't settle for being second you deserve to be #1. He may be a great father and of course you need to let him be one but show you are the stronger one and move forward with your life and please find the happiness you deserve. God Bless you
2006-10-08 20:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feelings you are experiencing are normal for what you are going through. Nothing will fix that but time. Try keeping a journal and talking to your friends. He is the father of your children so he will never really be out of your life. Try focusing all of your energy on the little ones. They need you more than ever now. I know this is a tough time for you...hang in there!
2006-10-08 19:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by fluer_ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I've been there done that. I know it is HARD. You need to get your mind off him, when you think about him, just be like f*ck him, i dont need him. Look what he has done to me. You need to get up on your feet, be there for your girls and get over him. Seriously, its hard I know and your prolly think you cant do it but you can. I did, you can. Go out have fun, find somebody new, and show him you dont need him, even though inside you really do. Show him he and worth a sh*t and play him just as he is you. You can do it. Have strength. In the long run you will be fine. There are alot more men out there that would died to be with you. Find that one. I feel you hunny. You can do it. Good Luck, Hang in there!
2006-10-08 19:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously if he don't want you anymore he says he just wanna be friends then you should respect that you can't change someone's feelings. Accept the friendship and move on You can't try to build something from what isn't there. try to do things on your own and let go of the past. Try to stay out of his personal life. Time will heal all wounds the fact that he wishes to remains friends shows that he cares about you as a person
2006-10-08 19:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by Ms_Apple_Bttmz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the a-s hole ..how can you take all this shitt and still want him ..if i was you i get over it pretty quick..
looks like you need a kick up the back side to put you in touch with reality ..wake up it will never be the same again..sorry but true..good luck
2006-10-08 19:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off why did he leave you after making babies with you. That makes no sense. And I can understand why you need him. There is more to this situation then you are telling us. But the mere fact that he want to leave you and his children And never marrying you tells me that you may be better off without him. It is very difficult to help when a situation is only partly explained. I know that you can e-mail me from answers please do and lets see what we can come up with ok............ Right now nothing is making any sense.......... Unless he is a boy several years away from man hood............
2006-10-08 19:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it; be strong. You have a life to live. Hate to be cliche, but there are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't make yourself unhealthy over something like that. If you were meant to be together, destiny will take charge, but don't stress it: GET ON WITH YOU LIFE.
2006-10-08 19:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by BUDDY LUV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel, unless he already knows. But dont you want him to know how it is. Also find someone you can talk to for good advice and also to get all this off your chest a little. Do your best to get want you want and help yourself get your mind strait and put yourself back together, its hard but when you are going through hell dont stop
2006-10-08 19:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by conspiracy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try get back together. I have a book that really works, It is a family book by Jehovah witnesses. it helped me a lot. I think every couple should have one and reading together. My family life is so much better.
2006-10-08 19:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by Al 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋