What are some essential things to know in acting like a man?

Question

I'm a female to male transsexual, need some tips in appearing like a straight man...hmm, now that I think about it, maybe I'm in the wrong section..but I figured I wouldn't get as much s**t for being trans HERE than I would in any OTHER section.

I don't need tips on dressing or LOOKING the part, I got that down. I'm talking about things like the way you sit, the way you walk, mannerisms, voice inflection, use of hand gestures when talking..ect.

Right now, I apparently give off the impression that I am a gay man. Not that there's anything wrong with being a gay man, but I've always liked GIRLS. Before my transition, I was a lesbian. I STILL like girls, so I'd like to give off a more straight male vibe.

Hammertime, am I a threat to your masculinity or what? Otherwise, shut the hell up!

Actually, a lot of these things you all are mentioning are things I've naturally done for years. I think my friend, who is a butch lesbian, is on crack. Or...she's just so used to seeing "butch lesbians" do those things that she doesn't see them as masculine behaviors.

Answer 1

You have to stand with your feet far apart. Try to make a square.

When you walk, your feet do not interlace like a woman. Feet go straight ahead, kind of like Frankenstein.

When you sit, you kick back and get comfortable. Don't sit up straight. Put your hands on the back of your head.

Be sloppy. Don't care what people think.

Learn to throw a baseball or football. Very important. A girl throws like a whimp with a loose wrist, boys throw with force and command and their wrist snaps sharply.

When you open a door with your right hand, ALWAYS make sure your left foot is in the back (or vice versa). You'll get leverage and you won't look whimpy opening a heavy door.

Never put your hands on your hips.

Never hold your wrists in an L shape.

Put your hands in your front pockets.

Wear a baseball cap.

Learn about sports. It's the most common small talk/bonding subject.

Sit with your knees far apart.

When you cross your legs, always keep your ankle on your knee. NEVER fold them like women with one leg over the other, knee over knee. VERY BAD.

When you fold your arms, try not to raise your shoulders up in a shrug. Keep the shoulders low.

When you stand straight, don't fold one ankle behind the other. Keep your legs straight.

Always keep your balance. Try to keep your center of gravity low and pretend you're a rock.

When you run, your elbows should be in a tight L shape, pumping up and down, hands in tight fists. Women flail their arms loosely.

When you sit at a table, you may rest your chin on your fist or hand. Lean forward or lean back. Sitting straight up is not masculine.

Never rest your arms between your legs. That's a female thing.

Always keep your two elbows far apart. Women tuck them in close.

You can walk with your arms slightly raised to the left and right. You're pretending that your muscles are so large that you can't lower your arms. You'll see skinny guys doing this. It's essentially peacock behavior.

Learn to yawn, sneeze, and cough loudly. You're announcing your presence.

When you get up and stretch, do a really big stretch with an optional groan or loud yawn.

The voice will be difficult. Men speak more in monotone and use loudness to punctuate their sentences. Women speak in sing song and use pitch to punctuate.

Answer 2

Hi Bo...
There are a lot of well-meaning answers here for you, but I think some of them missed the part where you wrote that you were a lesbian... If you were a masculine lesbian, you probably already have the swagger, and the inflection, etc. If you were a lipstick lesbian, I cannot imagine you having the operation....But if this is the case take some of their advise.
My best guess at why you are being mistaken for a gay male would be you manner of dress. Do not dress so trendy. If grunge is your thing, go for the typical flannel and blue jeans, not the skate punk look that is on your picture. Most men really don't care a lot about their clothes. When they dress a certain way, it is usually because their girlfriends or wives picked out their clothes. Also in your case, wear what the older crowd wears. You look to be in your twenties... try dressing in what people in the forties are wearing. I know that sounds awful, but just keep an open mind and give it a try. Remember that the style of clothes that you wear will attract a certain type of lady. Golf course clothing will get you a country club girl, and grunge will get you a trailer park girl. Some facial hair might help. I don't know if you have any.... but many gay men shave all of their body hair, so being smooth may evoke others into thinking you are a gay man, too. I wish you all the luck in the world, and thank you for posting such an interesting question....

Answer 3

Generally men are stiffer when moving. They keep the back and butt all in one line and don't wave the hips. This is difficult because as you birth sex was female your hip joints are slightly different to a birth sex male. Moving your hands. Don't. And if you do, don't make small gestures make large gestures with your palms. Keep your voice level and try not to vary your intonation.
Make sure you stare at women, particularly the butt. It helps if let your mouth fall open and get a vacant look in the eye. Chewing tobacco will also help stain your teeth, practice spitting. Get into a fight and get your nose broken. Take up boxing as a sport, you will get cauliflower ears, which makes a male impression.
Stop using deo, a ripe smell from your pits is a great way to establishing male credentials. Learn how to break wind in public. A good rip-snorter will soon make you one of the boys. Trade in your saloon car for a pick-up. Stand out in the sun and wind every day of the week and never use any day or night creams. You'll soon get a weatherbeaten complexion.
Don't cut your nails too often. Let them break off, or pare them with a pocket knife. Keep loads of junk in your pockets, including loose change, a four inch nail, a couple of paper clips, a two ancient boiled sweets, your phone, your billfold, a card from a tacky titty bar, a photo of your girlfriend.
Learn to belch convincingly, particularly when someone's talking to you. Don't say pardon. Scratch down there or move it around. Tuck your shirt into your pants and pull your belt as tight as possible around your hips so that your beer belly spills over the edge.
Buy a confederate flag and hang it in the back window of your truck. Leave empty cans in your truck.
Roll from side to side rather than walk, hold your hands by your side with the fingers curled inwards.

You get the idea. Of course some of this is kidding but there again. You should aim to make yourself appear to be bigger, to take up more space. You should also try not to be too choosy about what you wear. Many transmen look a bit too well dressed and stuff fits too well. Mind you not many men really look at other men, so perhaps ...

Good luck

Augusta

Answer 4

Changing your "vibe?" That's a tough one. As far as I know, that would mean changing who you really are. If you really want to, you can act all guyish and all manly-man and stuff. Or maybe buy a shirt that says "I'm straight!" Personally, I say be true to yourself and if somethinks you're gay, then they're just being ignorant. Think about this: You transitioned to be true to yourself. Why now pretend to be someone you're not? Just be true to yourself and keep looking. Some people find their mate at 12, while others don't find theirs until their 40's. I'm sure some woman will come around that will date you and not think of the relationship as lesbian. And if you really insist on doing this, take limendoz's advice. Heck, I've picked up ADD from my best friend, so what she's saying is really true. Plus, it'll just come naturally and become a part of who you are that way instead of you trying to act like someone else.

Answer 5

Why would you want to transform into a man? If I had, had a choice I would have been born a woman.

Anyway, to answer your question wear lot's of casual clothing. Drive a jeep or a truck, and speak from the side of your mouth. Always have something in your back pocket and speak with a gruffy, deep voice. Don't comb your hair all the time, and only shower 2 times a week.

Take up a hobby that involves a lot of standing around scratching your head.

Answer 6

You want to appear masculine in behavior but a man is a man even if he's effeminate and there's straight men who exhibits what is considered feminine behavior. I really wouldn't worry about feeling like you have to act the part of a masculine man just because you dress like one. My point is just be you even if you're wearing men clothes. That's my advice.

Answer 7

A lot of these tips will come natural to you anyway if you ID'ed as butch in the first place.

My GF is very butch, and just NATURALLY has an absence of many "female traits" and behaviors. She's not trying.

Check your yahoo messenger... I messaged you. Your email didn't work.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Read "Self-Made Man: One Woman's Journey into Manhood and Back" by Norah Vincent

From wikipedia.org regarding the book: Self-Made Man.

Vincent's most recent book, Self-Made Man, retells an eighteen-month experiment in which she disguised herself as a male. She talked about it in HARDtalk extra on BBC on April 21, 2006 and described her experiences in male-male and male-female relationships. She joined an all-male bowling club, and visited Catholic monks in a cloister. She dated women and describes how inferior she felt, when judged by women during flirting.

Answer 10

Get some male friends. After friends have bonded, they begin to mimic each others body language, voice tones and attitudes. You just gotta hang out with men and it will come naturally.