You have to hear the whole story first... I dated my high school sweetheart for four years. We broke up because I got tired of him controlling me. Well, after we were split up for a month, I met another guy. This guy wasn't exactly my type and we didn't have a whole lot in common, but we fell in love anyway. So I moved in with this guy and started renting a house with him. We stayed together for three years, and then we realized that we could never work out because we argued too much. I started cheating on him with my ex, but my ex had a girlfriend, so we kept it on the downlow. So me and this guy split up. Four days later (I don't know what the hell I was thinking) I married my highschool sweet heart. He moved in with me in this house that my ex lived in. I wasn't over my ex. Everything reminded me of him. A month and a half after I got married, my ex and I started talking again. We had sex last night. I don't know who I want. What should I do? Am I a whore??
2006-10-08 12:06:16 · 31 answers · asked by WTF 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love both of them. I know that my husband is the best for me, and its not fair to him for me to have feelings for my ex. I wish I could have them both. I don't want to let either one of them go.
2006-10-08 12:27:55 · update #1
you're not a whore, you're just very young and very confused. you have heard of "rebounds", right. sounds like you just took one to the altar. I think you need to take some time off from all men and figure out who *you* are - then you'll be better able to figure out who/what you want.
good luck
2006-10-08 12:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 3⤊ 4⤋
first of all don't call your self a whore. second you cant have both of them. you need to choose one and it's as to be quick or you will lose either one. third does your husband know you cheat on him? if he doesn't then lie do catch up to you. you know that right. why would you want to be with you ex if you said he controlling. you don't want a guy like that. also have you thought about your vows. for better or worst. so what i am trying to say is that only you know what to do. but i think if you want your husband then you should come clean to him and tell him everything. girl don't cheat no more because you are marry. if you want to be cheating then leave your husband but don't hurt his feeling because he does have feeling too. you know that right. why are you living in your ex home? get out of there so you can stop remember stuff about each other. anyway good luck to you and just remember follow your heart and don't do anything stupid OK.
2006-10-08 12:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by Melda R 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, you aren't a whore. So, please don't think that of yourself. You are confused though. There are a lot of people involved in this besides you and the ex you slept this. There your husband and your ex's girlfriend. I think you need to do some major soul searching ...on who you want to be with, and then stick with him.
Unfortunately, that choice might be yours to make anymore, if your husband finds out about last night. You could be finding yourself single again. And to be honest, and I don't want to hurt your feelings, but neither of these guys are "Mr. Right". When you have your "Mr. Right" you wouldn't have so much confussion in your feelings, and cheating wouldn't be a possibilty. So, I think I may would just take a walk... a long walk from both of these guys.
Sweetie, please take some time to think about exactly what you want. You need to make sure this time. The guys are getting mixed signals, and this ex proably doesn't know what to think. The husband I can just imagine what he would think if he knew.
You aren't a bad person, but if you keep this up. Then I would say you were, because you are cheating on your husband. And that's not right for him, and it's not good for you either. Everyone deserves to be happy, your husband, the ex, and you too! Please think about things, and do consider neither one of these guys are your Mr. Right. I will be praying that you can find the answer to your problems, and the strenfth to do what is right...
God bless us all.................
2006-10-08 12:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by totallylost 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I dont hink your a whore and anyone here that has called u that is stupid... ppl cant understand unless they have been in this situation... what i think you should do is take some time for yourself... sort out your feelings... there has got to be one that u love truly with your heart... or maybe none of them are for you... none the less, u need some time alone.... dig deep and youll find your answer... this may be hard but try to stay away from them for a little while... see who your heart misses... u cant keep both of them, not for long anyway... if you do, one of them or both is bond to let on, then youll lose both... one day at a time, and whatever u do dont meet anyone else right now, cuz then youll realy be up shits creek....
2006-10-08 13:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by Tina 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's an old song that says... "Torn between two lovers and feeling like a fool". Does that echo your emotions right now? I think you love them both for very different reasons. One supplies something you need and the other makes up the difference. But on the "real", it's unfair to all three of you and somebody, probably you, could get hurt very badly if you keep it up. I heard a theory that any one person can only meet 80% of your needs. 80% is really good! Break up with both of them and find yourself, and what you really want. Wait on the 80% man and be committed. Best of luck!
2006-10-08 12:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by Worshiper44 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Looks to me like you have a lot to learn before you are ready for any relationship at all. You need to learn exactly what the true meaning of a relationship is and how to maintain it. You would be amazed at how much you can learn on this subject by talking to longtime members of Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous. This subject is well covered in many of the counseling sessions. I owe the success of my marriage to my recovery program. Example: 50% give and 50% take (50/50) is not good enough. When it's 90% give and 10% take by both parties the results are wonderfull. Now go learn more. Been maried for 15 years and not even one single fight, ever. Maintaining a strong Christian lifestyle is another biggie that helps.
2006-10-08 12:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by normy in garden city 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i think of that's an argument of rushing into marriage with somebody else without being over the ex boyfriend. in case you extremely enjoyed your husband then you extremely should not be having concepts approximately making like to an ex. of course you nevertheless have emotions for the ex.
2016-12-08 11:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by jeniffer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to be brutally honest, but you shouldn't be in a relationship at all! You haven't achieved the maturity to appreciate honor, commitment, respect, trust, character, or dignity.
You have no right what-so-ever to screw with other peoples hearts like this. You should sincerely apologize to all of those involved and accept the consequences and a little dose of humility.
This kind of behavior is an absolute insult to those of us who Cherish the institute of marriage and understand that contentment in life comes from caring for, and taking care of others far beyond our own impulses.
Or let me put it this way... would you be proud of your daughter if this were her? What advice would you give her?
It's time to cowgirl up... do you want to be a woman of character or a whore?
2006-10-08 12:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sorry hun, you're a whore. Tell your husband what you did, accept the consequences. Then go with the guy you want, if either of them will actually have you.
2006-10-08 15:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with what you done, men's do it all the time, and nothing said, but let a woman do it she is a whore, if it is good keep getting it. there must be something wrong with him, if it takes another man to do his job.no you are not a whore, just that you were not over your ex, and you should have not gotten married, you were on the rebound, any way fxxx, what others think, they wish they had done it. so has and keep it on the down low.
2006-10-08 12:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by queenmidas1014 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My advice to you is give this sometime. You might find that this
was just a one night thing in the heat of the moment. And that you
two really don't want to be togeather. I can tell you if you love your
husband at all, this is going to be very difficult. You will find that the guilt will tear you up if you don't tell him. He deserves this much from you, and it's up to him whether or not he can forgive you and move on. good luck.
2006-10-08 12:16:54 · answer #11 · answered by REALISTIC 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋