My husband is turning into Ward Cleaver. Help?

Question

If you don't know who Ward Cleaver is then you are too young to be giving marital advice, so please don't respond.

Hubby went to church today. I am not a devout Christian but believe in God and the morals/ values that go alone with Christianity. Don't feel like I quite fit the mold of a perfect Christian woman. He, on the other hand, is really into it. He came home and told me that he signed me up for a church group this evening. We did one before and it wasn't bad, but I was not ready to do this just yet. Should I go or be a ***** and stay home?

He even is starting to frown on letting the occasional swear word slip. Help.....

Answer 1

WWJD - What would June do?

I liked your response about "did one before and it wasn't bad"... that tells me you're not totally closed off to the whole new found freedom your husband is seemingly choosing. And, he's choosing to do this with you!

While you feel that you may not be ready to do this just yet you may find an answer that can help you to decide by attending the group this evening. It seems your hubby is happy about what he experienced so far and is wanting to share it with you.

And, perhaps after the group, you and your husband can discuss the why, for and how this pertains to your feelings. You may be surprised, I swear.

Answer 2

It is good you go to church with him. Pray before hand that it will touch your heart and pray that God will help you be the wife he needs you to be....and that hubby will be the man you need him to be. I pray this all the time with my kids. I have a son I just don't get and I pray all the time to be the mom he needs, because the mom I am right now can always stand improvement.

Hubby should talk to you before signing you up tho. Just express to him that you wish he would consult you. You and your hubby are just the opposite of me and mine......and my hubby just joined a church group with me and is loving it.

Good luck. Try to let this bring you together not pull you apart. You will be glad to have a Ward Clever around when and if you have kids.

Answer 3

I never saw Ward Cleaver go to church, but he did have good morals and charactor.
You should be glad on one hand that your husband goes to church instead of the bar. I would go with him. Many husbands never want to take their wives anywhere. What have you got to lose? You might even find a Wonderful, Loving and Great God in the process. He has led me to a great life, without a beautiful husband like you have. Be grateful and kind.

Answer 4

And how would you feel if he was checking out every woman he passed or chose porno over you and even cheated on you many times? I'll bet you wished he was Ward then?

Besides, I don't believe "Leave It To Beaver" displayed any type of religious beliefs. If I were him, I would be suspicious and worried about you.

He is trying to make his way to a better life and again, at least he is not going out on you and cheating. Go to the meetings, stop being a jerk about it and appreciate that your husband is going the opposite of a lot of the men that married women complain about on this forum. Be happy you have a good man.

Answer 5

If I recall, Ward Cleaver was really an idiot. He wouldn't have known to June was having an affair in front of him. Live your life, and Betty, Bud and Kitten are all grown up.

Answer 6

i would rather have a ward cleaver as an alice cooper.... it is not being a ***** if you are not ready for the church sceen an all. church has too many politics in it now , too many hipocrits as well. church ain't what it used to be. but that should be up to you , only when you want to welcome that back into your life. good luck

Answer 7

Gee whiz...
If you have been married for a while, I would suggest asking him why the sudden dive into devotion, and tell him what you think of it.
If you are newlyweds, well, maybe you should have seen this coming.
I mean, your not asking the guy to go out and knock over a Macs' or anything.

Answer 8

Hey, if he's into the Church thingy, then fine. But he shouldn't have signed you up for some group without your permission. That's not right. I wouldn't be a biatch, but you CAN politely refuse.

Answer 9

You prove that women are truly irrational, stupid BI atches.

Instead of complaining that your husband is out with the guys, or cheating on you, or turning gay, you complain he is trying to become a virtuous christian????

Do him a favor and leave. You are no june cleaver, so GET OUT

Answer 10

IF
If you can keep your head when about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about,don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good,nor talk too wise:
If you can dream-and not make dreams your master;
If you can think-and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make atrap for fools
Or watch the things you gave your life to,broken,
And stop and build ‘em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose,and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nevre and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which Says to them: “Hold on!”
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings-nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you,but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And-which is more-you’ll be a Man,my son!
(Rudyard Kipling sixty Poems,London 1939)